Busted, Big Time!
You thought you were getting away with it, right? You have been cheating on her and you could have been doing it for a number of reasons: you lack the guts to leave the relationship you no longer want to be in, you were bored and looking for some excitement or you may have actually been trying to save your relationship by avoiding some uncomfortable topics like lack of sexual satisfaction or feelings of loneliness. Whatever stress or conversations you have been trying to avoid are about to rear their ugly heads, because you are starting to suspect she knows what you’ve been up to.
There really is no turning back. You can’t undo what you did. However, what you choose to do from this point on will say a lot about the respect you have for yourself and your partner, your commitment to the relationship’s future and your willingness to do what it takes to “make it right.” Let’s start by talking about your options. I’m sure she is considering hers right now too…
Boys Will be Boys?
Men can get away with a lot in a relationship. Some women might excuse a minor infidelity and chock it up to “boys will be boys,” but even the most forgiving woman can only take so much. Cheating in a brand-new relationship, having sex with an ex, multiple offenses or a full-fledged affair are likely to get most men in trouble, big time!
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You have two options: you can wait and see if she confronts you or you can confess.
Option 1: The Wait-and-See
Some men who suspect their partners know they’ve cheated decide to wait until she confronts them about it. If it seems like she is waiting too long, it may be because she is up to something. Here are three options:
Many women like to collect evidence before they confront a cheater. They knows men will often lie, but if a woman has irrefutable evidence, denial is not really an option. She could be going through your phone records, looking at your Facebook messages and contacting any potential partners in crime.
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You have hurt her and it could very well be that she wants to hurt you back. She may pull away from you emotionally and not show you the same level of care and attention you’re used to and make your life miserable at home. Or, she could seek out a new partner for herself.
She might let the cheating go for the sake of family or to avoid humiliation. Keep in mind that unsettled issues will only fester and when your kids leave the nest, your relationship will be on very shaky ground.
Option 2: The Confession
Not many men confess to cheating. There seems to be an unspoken rule to just deny it if it ever comes up. But if she already knows you’ve cheated, you’re only fooling yourself if you think things will continue to be the same. There is even a good chance she will kick you out!
If you confess, it shows that you are truly sorry for what you did and you want help to make sure that it never happens again. Women respect a man who is able to admit his faults, but don’t expect her to be appreciative, thankful or happy about your confession!
She needs to know that you are truly sorry for what you’ve done, so when you apologize, make sure your apology is heartfelt and honest.
A Long, Bumpy Road
Winning her respect and trust back isn’t going to be easy. Are you sure you’re up to the challenge? Are you willing to cut off all contact with the other woman and all the excitement that came with that relationship? How are you going to make sure you don’t cheat again?
“Yes, you can forgive cheating, but dealing with it is much harder.” – Psychic Quinn ext. 5484
Affairs don’t always spell doom for relationships. In some cases, waning love affairs could be rekindled. Maybe you’ve tasted the forbidden fruit and realized that it isn’t as sweet as you thought it would be. Maybe you’ve got it out of your system and it made you realize how great what you have at home really is. If this is the case, open your heart, tell her what happened and listen to what she has to say in return. This could be your last chance, so make it count!