Some of the most common calls I get are from women who are waiting for the man they love to get a divorce from the woman he is married to. These women want to know if I can see when exactly their man will get a divorce so that he will be free to marry them.
Time flies. The older we get, the quicker time seems to pass. When I was six years old, every Christmas seemed to take two years, not one, to arrive! Now the days whiz past, and Christmas seems to come every six months or so! My husband and I were marveling just the other day about how many anniversaries had passed, when it feels like we’ve been together just a few years.
I feel empathy for the women who call – they’ve put their lives on hold for someone who is already committed to another, at least legally. The man may assure his woman that his heart is hers, but there’s still that piece of paper that legally ties him to another. And this is what the world sees.
I’ve done readings for women who have waited for two years, three years, nine years and more. I feel their pain, and realize that they do love the man in question. But what kind of life are they leading while they wait? Typically, they see him when he has the time. But holidays are reserved for his family. Vacations? These are usually family affairs. The other woman is sandwiched in whenever he has the time, but he assures her that he is working toward a divorce, that he loves her and to be patient.
I’m not judgmental about these situations. At the same time, when I do these readings, I see that happiness is very difficult to build on the unhappiness of others. There just seems to be some type of balance in nature where wishing negative things for another (the wife) will not produce positive results for another (the other woman).
And time passes and passes. Days, months and years go by, while the woman waits. Her life is on hold while she waits for the man. Time that could be spent happily with another is not. Women assure me that the man is their soul mate, the only one for them. But I usually see that there is another for them. He’s out there, but they’re afraid to let go of the one that they have a partial relationship with to be receptive to a total relationship with another. They don’t believe that there’s more than one man they could love.
Time flies. In this life, we should treasure each moment as if it were the last that we have. And each moment that goes by should be actively valued. Do we have enough time to just wait? To wait for something that may or may not happen?
What do you think?