Over the past year, I’ve noticed many of my clients desiring, and desperately needing, change in their relationships – even wanting to leave their partners. Change isn’t easy for most. With many of my clients, change has become first priority, because of the unhappiness and stagnancy of their lives. Therefore, they desperately want a new beginning, including a new house, new love life, and new job. They try to find the best way to tell the one they are with that the marriage or partnership can’t be saved, and that it’s over.
As most of my callers have had severe clashes with their other halves because of their individual life choices, I often advise them to be open to fair discussion, to be ready to agree to disagree, and to be mindful of the karma in the relationship.
We will reap what we sow, good or bad. Not all marriages or partnerships are made in heaven. Some marriages happen for convenience, for selfish reasons, or just because it feels like the right thing to do at the time. In these situations, a self examination can be a humbling experience. Some great marriages have “changed” for the worse. Sometimes letting go is like prying a sucker out of the hands of a toddler – you just don’t want to give it up.
Yet many of my clients that have had difficult spouses have left their marriages, and have helped their ex-spouses on their journey in the process. They are extremely happy and living more fruitful and productive lives. Even their ex-spouses are extremely happy, and most of them are the best of friends and have a healthier relationship than when they were married, especially those with children involved. Communications with them are clearer, and there is new growth between them, even if their lives are both going in different directions. For the few that don’t even pick up the phone when their exes call, they’re still very happy and content, because they’re living more peaceful and productive lives without all of the negativity and bad drama that they don’t have to put up with anymore.
Many, many, many of my callers have had the vision to rewrite their story, but you have to remember, each caller and each circumstance is different, so don’t compare your life with someone else’s.