When Their Mind and Heart Are at War
Are you in a relationship with someone who seems to bounce back and forth between being so lovable one moment and then cold and rejecting the next moment? You may be wondering if you’re dating Jekyll and Hyde. You may be wondering if they’re acting this way because of something you’re doing wrong. Chances are, you’re not doing anything wrong, but you may be enabling this behavior if you aren’t reacting to it appropriately.
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The Logical Mind and the Emotional Heart
There is a very good chance that your partner is running hot and cold because their mind and heart are at war with each other. The logical mind drives the desire for success, security and achievement. But it also has a negative side that can make it selfish, greedy and arrogant.The heart wants love, acceptance and happiness. However, it has a negative side that is an over-giving people-pleaser who blames itself when others are not quite happy. All too often what happens is the logical mind believes that to feel secure it has to push people away, while at the same time the emotional heart believes in giving to everyone to feel love. It’s really easy for the mind and heart to get out of sync with each other, which accounts for the Jekyll and Hyde personality.
Don’t Chase Them
So let’s say you and your partner have had a great date, but you know that once it’s over they will get distant and cold. In the past you may have reached out to them, but don’t do that this time. This time, give them space and leave them alone. Let them process the special connection they have with you. Let them reach out to you again.
An Emotional Project
Many of my clients are confused by the Jekyll and Hyde in their life. They say they give so much love, care and support to their partner, and their efforts backfire. Why don’t they show the same love in return? Why are they more comfortable with drama and instability? A lot of people fall for someone who turns out to be an emotional project. They give their project tons of love and then wonder why they get so angry.
You Can’t Love Their Problems Away
The truth is, you can’t just love someone’s problems away. And you can’t use your love to fix them if they don’t want to be fixed or if they have lived a long time without the kind of love you’ve been providing. Their anger could come from the frustration of getting more love now then when they were young. If they have unresolved feelings from childhood, they could be looking at your love this way: “How dare you give me more love than my parents gave me when I was a child! I want love from them!” They may even stray from you because they are more comfortable being with someone who won’t treat them as well.
Take Things Slow
But this doesn’t necessarily mean your relationship is doomed. However, it does mean that you need to take things slow and not smother your partner with the amount of love that you think makes up for their past. Instead, allow your partner to grow into the love you have for them. If you do, you may find that they are more loving towards you than you could have ever imagined.
If you and your partner are not seeing eye to eye when it comes to the way you show affection, call me. I can help you get back on the same page.
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