Understanding the Peaks and Valleys of Female Desire
Men and women experience desire differently. Both genders can lose sexual desire over time, but it seems that women can often fall off the deep end of desire later in life. What’s to blame—nutrition? Lackluster male lovers? Or something else?
New research is demonstrating what many people already knew from experience: Women lose interest in sex over time, while men don’t.
The finding has the potential to help couples, the researchers said. Knowing that many women’s sexual desire diminishes over the course of a relationship could encourage both partners to be more realistic about their sex lives, and could help them weather the changes in desire as they occur.
Sex researchers Sarah Murray and Robin Milhausen, both of the University of Guelph in Ontario, Canada, asked 170 undergraduate women and men who had been in heterosexual relationships for anywhere from one month to nine years to report on their levels of relationship satisfaction, sexual satisfaction and sexual desire. Desire was scored using an established model called the Female Sexual Function Index, which ranges from 1.2 to 6.0.
The participants reported being generally satisfied with their relationships and sex lives, but women reported lower levels of desire depending on the length of their relationship. “Specifically, for each additional month women in this study were in a relationship with their partner, their sexual desire decreased by 0.02 on the Female Sexual Function Index,” the authors wrote online Jan. 23 in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy.
In fact, relationship duration was a better predictor of sexual desire in women than both relationship and sexual satisfaction. While the 0.02 decrease in female desire was small, it contrasts with male desire, which held steady over time, the researchers said.
What do you think—what provokes loss of female desire later in life?
“Honor your own heart’s desire as strongly as you do others.” – Claire ext. 5242
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3 thoughts on “Why Do Women Lose Sexual Desire?”
sometimes it is not the women who loses desire for sex but the man she is having it with.
men age too and go through changes. nose hairs, hairy ears, sagging stomachs, bad breath, teeth in a glass, rugs, glasses.
us gals don’t have the market on aging. men have ED.and that does not stand for education!
sometimes i think doing it alone is so much easier.
speaking from a post menopausal point of view.
This article asks : What do you think—what provokes loss of female desire later in life?
2 things :
2. the loss of our youthful looks, let’s face it, if you don’t think you look sexy anymore, you probably won’t feel sexy.
I think the key is in health….. if it’s hormonal, working with your Doctor to keep your system operating at it’s best. And trying to stay in shape so you look good and feel good about yourself…..again, taking care of your health.
Thank you KB for being very brave! This is a volatile subject and hotly debated by many of us between hot flashes! Aside from poor nutrition, lack of sleep and poor partner choices which will affect any woman at any age…many healthy woman who are partnered with the love of their life no longer feel a panicked need to use sexuality to prove they are loved or to keep their mate from straying. Frequency of sex, satisfaction we enjoy by sex and the happiness in our relationship and the security we feel together can misjudged by outside observers.
Many people can confuse not having a “panic” regarding sex with a lack of desire. Desire is overrated. It is satisfaction that counts. Sometimes we appear to have greater desire because we aren’t being satified and desire is mistaken for not getting what we need.
Many of us oldies are really good at satifying each other and we simply aren’t asking for approval or help. We are actually having more fun, more satisfaction and less worry. We just don’t look as good when we are doing it. This is why we have failing eyesight at this age–Thank goodness!
Again, Thank you for a fabulous article. You always make me smile and think.
Many Blessings, Kelli