There are times that we have a relationship that ends and we cannot figure out if we should keep trying or let things go. Many cases it is someone not being truthful or scared to do the right thing so they skirt around the reality of the relationship and keep you hanging. Carmen dissects this dilemma and great advice on what to do.
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Shannon from South Bend, Indiana asks:
I dated a guy who I thought was going to end up being “the one.” We were with each other for three years. He decided to move to another state and the plan was for me to move also, but when the time came he decided to end the relationship because of the stress he came to when he moved there. He said it wouldn’t be fair to me or us if I would move there when all this was going on with him. So now I still hear from him, and he says he still loves me and misses me, and when he gets his feet on the ground then we can move on together. So my question is, am I wasting my time by waiting on a man that I love? Is he just keeping me lingering in the air and hoping things will work out? Ask a psychic about your situation today!
Honestly, my first gut response is to cringe after reading this. Trust me, I am not a negative person, but I do find there is a lot of truth in some of the dating advice that is out there, especially when trying to figure out if a guy is into you or not.
To me, this sounds like the standard excuse to break something off, while trying to cushion the blow with meaningless excuses and false promises of missing you or loving you. When it comes to love I have learned that a man who really wants to be with you and hates being separated from you will do anything in his power to make it so, regardless of how busy, challenged or afraid he may be. Do his actions match his words? If not, Psychic Rianne ext. 9423 can direct you towards someone better!
I have also been in a similar situation and the truth is, most guys don’t want to be jerks. They don’t want to be perceived as a douche, so they come up with stuff like “It’s just the wrong timing,” or “I really do miss and love you, but you are too good for me.” In your case I am hearing that he is trying to figure out how far he can get without you and is merely keeping you dangling on the sidelines. Or, there is the option that he is simply a coward and doesn’t have the heart to be straight with you. Either way, I have to call b.s. on this one.
If he is really interested in keeping a relationship with you, let him come to you. He will have to walk the walk, instead of merely talking the talk. Stop the contact and stop being at his beck and call while waiting for him to tell you when/if he is ready to continue the relationship.
I’d go out with my friends and start slowly living the single life, i.e. doing things for myself without having him constantly on my mind. When I was in a similar situation, I joined a gym, spent a whole lot of time with my friends, went to the movies, and took care of myself. I didn’t contact him and I moved on with my life. By the time he attempted to contact me (about six months later) I had moved already moved on, and now I am married to the guy I moved on with. Are you pushing him away? Psychic Karmystic ext. 9457 has a better way to communicate your desires.
Good luck, but value and respect yourself enough, so you won’t keep wasting your time waiting for someone else to decide where your life will go! Girl power!