When most people hear about Tantra, they think of distant people with strange sexual practices while bizarre music and rare incense fills the air. If that’s your idea, I would congratulate you on reading this article, because you’ve either broken through some of your personal boundaries or are about to learn some new things. In either case, welcome to a new adventure!
Tantra is not just about sex. It is an ancient spiritual tradition that looks at all aspects of life. It developed long before Western religions and modern science. One aspect of life is sexuality, and the ancient Tantric studies into sexuality are only now beginning to be explored by scientists.
While some Tantric sexual discoveries are complex, there are also basic and wonderful techniques that can make your sex life sizzle! Here are just a few of them.
Breath and sex are intimately related. As you near orgasm, your breath tends to quicken and become shorter.
Secret One: If you consciously focus on your breath—keep your breaths deep and slow—you’ll be able to stay in that delicious and juicy state of orgasm and pre-orgasm much, much longer. What’s this like? Imagine a five-minute-long orgasm! Using this technique just scratches the surface.
Sound and sex are intimately related. In fact, there is a saying that without sacred sounds (mantra), there is no Tantra. One of the most sacred of sounds is that of the outgoing breath: ahhhhhh. In fact, when you correctly pronounce the mystical word Om, it sounds like “ahhhh-ohhhh-mmmm.”
Secret Two: When involved in intimate activity, make sounds (especially “ahhhh”) on your breath exhalations. The louder the better! It causes your entire body to vibrate (sound is vibration) with joy and bliss. Orgasms will fill your entire body, not just your genitals. Wow!
Exercise makes everything better. The more you exercise the muscles involved with sex, the better, more ecstatic, and more enjoyable your sex life will be.
Secret Three: Exercise the sexual muscles daily. Contract all of your pelvic muscles. This includes the so-called kegel exercises that work the pubococcygeus muscle as well as the muscles of the buttocks and anus—the entire “pelvic floor.” Squeeze and hold. Do it fast and do it slow. As with any exercise, start with few repetitions and build up. If you get slightly sore, cut back a bit. Having greater strength and control of these muscles will make sex incredibly more exciting and give you greater control over your orgasms. Some women who have difficulty orgasming during intercourse may even discover that they will develop this ability.
Look at your partner. In many instances, people close their eyes during sex. The closer they get to orgasm, the tighter they close their eyes.
Secret Four: Look into your partner’s eyes. It is believed that you can transfer spiritual and sexual energy through your eyes. Although it may feel a bit weird at the beginning, looking into your partner’s eyes, especially during orgasm, can lead to some of your most intense sexual experiences ever! It can increase intimacy between you and your partner, too.
Try something different. The famed book, the Kama Sutra, is not really very spiritual or Tantric. But it does take from Tantra the idea of the power of different sexual positions.
Secret Five: If your sexual experiences have become dull habits, trying something different can lead you to new levels of sexual enjoyment. No, you don’t have to do some of the Kama Sutra poses that look like they were designed for contortionists! Just do something even a little different for surprisingly profound effects.
Make sex a sacrament. Animals rut and procreate. Humans can turn sex into a true gift from God.
Secret Six: The more sacred the sex, the more intense the orgasm. Prepare for sex as you would if you were going to church or synagogue. Bathe. Dress up. Wear delicate perfumes or scented oils. Decorate your bedroom. Dim the lights. Use candles (make sure they’re safe).The more that sex is externally special, the more it will internally drive you delightfully mad with joy.
Try one or two of these secrets. Some require more practice than others. Be gentle and be ready for your wildest, most sizzling, and most meaningful sex ever!
Donald Michael Kraig graduated from UCLA with a degree in philosophy, and has become a certified hypnotherapist and Master NLP practitioner. His book, Modern Magick, is the most popular step-by-step course in real magick ever published.