You think it can’t happen to you. But it can.
“Wife Abandonment Syndrome” is a name invented by Montreal therapist Vikki Stark, whose own husband abandoned her suddenly after twenty-one years of marriage. In her new book and website, both titled “Runaway Husbands,” Stark delves into the stories of women whose husbands just up and left one day.
Stark, a divorce therapist, strove to understand both her own experience and those of other women through documenting their stories and examining what had happened to them.
Many of these men left with no words – only a short text message or even a post-it note to say that they were leaving. Many of the women Stark talked to, as well, mentioned that they had no clue that their husbands had any discontent whatsoever with their marriages (though self-deception works in hindsight, as well).
Stark discovered several common features among “runway husbands”: Such men are often successful and considered consummate family men, highly involved in their families and doing all the “right” things. The runaway husbands were also typically described as “conflict avoiders,” who would hardly ever discuss their problems or issues, instead often hiding behind “it’s all OK” masks. Perhaps this is why most women reported that they never saw their abandonment coming.
What do you think – why would a husband simply up and leave? Is there a way to see it coming – and prevent it happening?