Nobody understands why you can’t get over him. Your friends say, “Let it go. Move on with your life.” You know in your heart that you’re sick of missing him, but you still have that deep intuitive feeling that the two of you are supposed to be together! It’s something I hear about, a connection between lovers that was (and is) a spiritual, Soul-to-Soul connection, and yet for some reason in the mundane world, you can’t be together, and one or both of you suffer and pine for what cannot be.
One of the first things I try to explain is that when there is such a strong connection, a spiritual and soul connection, it usually means that you have shared each other’s life path in other lifetimes! So perhaps in at least one other past life, the two of you have been together for many, many years, perhaps even through entire lifetimes, even up through death. The “soul memory” of being together is something that does not simply end after each lifetime; there is a long recording of each life you’ve experienced, the loved ones in it, and all the lessons and love along the way. When there is a soul to soul connection, you can easily get stuck mourning the relationship as it ONCE was in another life!
There are some soul mates that meet after connecting or getting married to another, and although the odds are against a happily ever after, this can actually occur. If you find yourself in this situation, it’s important to hold on to your own independence, and work to stay as spiritually clear as possible. Do your meditation or prayer to stay grounded and clear in order to make the best possible choices for yourself. That connection to a higher spiritual experience is sometimes the only thing to cling to when the nights are long and you are all alone.
The most important factor to help you reclaim your life if your soulmate can’t share it with you is to remember that the “echoes” of past lives might be confusing you. If you make up your mind that it’s time to really “let go” in this lifetime, you must set a date on a calendar to release and move forward, and every day pray or meditate on having the strength to release this connection for this current lifetime, in order to find another soul mate connection for this experience! See this date as the date of closure in this manifestation, or lifetime, and see yourself moving forward without the pain. It’s not easy, yet to hold on when the relationship cannot happen is to lose out on all the joy and love that you could have with a soul mate that is available to you totally in this lifetime!