Many men have a hard time reading women. This could be (at least in part) because boys haven’t been taught to read emotions as attentively as girls have been.
Because of this early training, men end up at a serious disadvantage when it comes to picking up on emotions and non-verbal cues.
Like anything, reading emotions can be learned. Improving your skills in this area is a worthwhile investment. Cultivating your emotional acuity will improve your relationships and communication skills, from the bedroom to the boardroom. No matter where you are or who you’re interacting with, the ability to read non-verbal cues such as body language and facial expressions can create a more amiable environment.
That said, not all things must be read in order to be known. There are a few things that every woman wants. (And probably, most men want at least some of these things, too.) So, while you brush up on your people-reading skills, you can rely on this quick list to make it easy to let your lady know just how much you care.
1. Your woman wants to be adored by you. Tell her you love watching her sleep. Tell her you love falling asleep next to her at night. Tell her you’re grateful she chose you.
Bring her coffee in bed. Call her when you are apart – even if only for a few hours – just to tell her that you love her.
Give your loved one little gifts at random. These may be trinkets that remind you of her, or a simple yet sweet action, such as drawing her a bath or rubbing her feet without being asked.
2. Your woman wants to be noticed by you. This means paying attention to her appearance. Compliment her on her choice of clothing. Tell her she looks beautiful, hot, sexy, gorgeous.
Be warned: most women do not want to hear “You look nice!” We want to hear “That looks AMAZING on you!” or “Wow! I love how you did your eyes tonight.”
3. Your woman wants to be taken care of by you. Pay attention to her mood, as well as the surface beauty. Notice when the conversation shifts. Pay attention to her vulnerability.
Remember that your woman may not want you to be the “fix-it man” when she hits an emotional moment. Perhaps there’s nothing that needs fixing!
When in doubt about what might be wanted or needed, ask. Asking is a wonderful, caring, sweet way of taking care of your lady. Ask if she wants to be held. Ask if she wants to talk about it. Ask if there’s anything you can do to make it better.
Lasara Firefox Allen is an author, educator, activist, and coach. Lasara’s first book, the bestselling Sexy Witch (Llewellyn Worldwide), was published in 2005 under the name LaSara FireFox. Lasara is available for coaching in many areas, including the arenas of romance and relationships.