You may be new or a veteran Online dater. Sometimes you give up, try multiple sites or just find yourself aimlessly wandering the digital highway hoping someone will help you find a new crop of potential partners on social networks.
You show up, you scan the meeting place, then you spot him or her — instead of meeting…you decide to leave. You meet up with your friends that you double-booked with as an out clause and then wonder why it’s so hard to meet people.
Here are a few hints that might help you in your digital quest for love, lust and laughter:
Throw Away Your List:
A laundry list of qualities may sound good written down: intelligent, funny, only 6 feet tall, no kids, doesn’t drink, must have a job -— but in reality how many former partners have ever fit that list?
If you are looking for a perfect human being, it’s not going to happen. Take a chance approaching people outside of your normal filters. After all, you signed up to widen your dating pool.
Meet and Greet:
Are you having an amazing connection with someone via emails and phone calls, but you have yet to meet? If your expectations are now keeping you from meeting this person you’ve fallen into a classic category of romanticizing another person. Don’t exchange more then a week’s worth of communication without setting a plan to meet. What will you have to talk about in person? There’s no need to waste your time with a person you might not have a connection with in the real world. Stop hiding behind distance and electronic devices.
Do Your Homework:
You show up and the person you are supposed to meet doesn’t remotely fit their online description. Well, did they have one photo? Was it blurry? Were they wearing a costume or their high school ring? For this do they have to suffer the humiliation of getting stood up? If you bothered to get to the destination, at least say hello and chat for a few minutes. Even if it’s painful, your Momma didn’t raise you to be rude.
Ask For Help:
How come your friend is going on date after date while you are stuck at home? They are probably doing all of the above, but most importantly they wrote a killer profile. These days everything you do is about self-marketing. It’s not just enough to write a great song or book or do a good job at work and expect to be recognized. You have to be bold and approach finding a mate with confidence and being witty. What is going to make you stand out in a crowd? A generic profile isn’t going to do it. Get that popular friend to help you re-write your profile and give your photos a once over — you may be surprised at the results.
Everyone Deserves One Date:
You can weed out as much as you want, but each profile you skip over is a missed chance for a potential connection.