3 Little Habits That Build a Better Relationship

3 Little Habits

You Have to Make an Effort

I’m not going to lie: building a better relationship takes effort. And if your relationship is starting to feel stale, you are going to have to work on making it better. The good news is that you don’t have to make grand gestures or spend a ton of money or time to rekindle the connection you once had.

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It’s all about the little things. Little things can make a huge impact. Here are my top three little habits that build a better relationship.

  1. Back Up Your Words
    As a writer I can tell you that even if you are gifted at putting pen to paper, you won’t be able to make your partner swoon if you don’t put any heart behind the sentiment. Loving words are nice to hear, but small meaningful gestures go a lot further, so back up your loving words with actions. This will maintain and sustain your relationship past initial infatuation. And if you are no Shakespeare when it comes to words, know that a good hug, a lingering kiss or a romantic night for two will mean a lot to them.
  2. Remember That Some Things Never Get Old
    There is a misconception that love must always stay fresh and feel new to maintain its spark. That simply isn’t true. Look at it this way: Don’t you have a favorite dessert or meal that hits the right spot and satisfies your cravings every time? How would you feel if someone changed that recipe? You’d probably be more than a little annoyed. That’s because you love what’s reliable and familiar. Love can be that way too. Whether it’s that midday text just to say “hi,” holding hands while walking, or cuddling in bed as you drift off to sleep, it’s important not to discount the familiar behaviors that make love amazing. Some things never get old, including the old familiar ways we love and are loved.
  3. Don’t Be So Quick to React
    Even couples who are deeply in love fight, and fight hard. When we feel attacked, we have the urge to defend ourselves right away. But there’s a better way. Use silence to your advantage instead. When arguing with your partner, don’t respond to their heated words right away. Take a few seconds of silence. This accomplishes a few things:

A. It gives your partner a chance to think about what they’ve just said. They may apologize or further explain.

B. It shows that you are listening to what they say and not just waiting to react. Your partner will feel heard.

C. It gives you time to think about what you want to say. Carefully construct your words.

D. It will keep you both on topic, rather than let emotions wildly spin you off topic.

Remember, it’s the Little Things

Remember the little things if you want to build a better relationship. So cancel the 12 dozen roses, the hour-long carriage ride or the serenade from their favorite pop star. Just be loving, consistent and demonstrative in little, familiar ways.

6 thoughts on “3 Little Habits That Build a Better Relationship

  1. Michelle

    I dated a guy for 2 years we got along really good until recently he started hanging with his friends I didn’t see him til it was time to go to bed so a week ago I ask him what’s going on he acted like he didn’t know wat I was talking about so I ask him to leave I’m hurt right now but I’m trying different things reading picking up extra shifts @ work short trips out of town something to keep me busy it’s hard most of all I pray but I kno life goes on and that’s what I’m trying to do

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  2. Lisa Smith

    This is to Subrina, it’s unfortunate that you feel your relationship is not a good one. You may have already tried some of my suggestions but your comment concerned me so much that I thought I at least comment. Maybe consider joining a community group(s), a church group if you attend, maybe volunteer, or take up a community class of something that interests you,…basically..Subrina. Please try to do things that you enjoy, pamper yourself, and most of all love yourself. I hope by doing these things you will come to know that true happiness and content comes from within yourself. By loving yourself …you should find happiness.

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  3. subrina

    My Relationship with my Husband is not a good one. He more understanding of daughter, his friends . they seem to come first. he don’t no how to be supported to me but everyone eles get it he comfort them but not me why? He never want to spend time with me at all. sometime i feel he don”t like me but tells me he love me but likes hanging with friends. daughter gets away with everthing not the onther kids.

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  4. muhammadiftikharaleem

    Respected Eric I am so much confused about my whole life and day by day it will be harmful for me and my family how I can settled give me advice in the shape of 3 little habits about my relationships.I am very thank full to you for this act of kindness for ever and oblige

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  5. Jahala

    I love a man that doesn’t show his feelings. I have been with him for 5 Years . His birthday is Feb 27th mine is Feb 26th 3 years apart. I make sure he knows how much I appreciate him but he never tells me.

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  6. Gina Rose ext.9500Gina Rose ext.9500

    Great advice, Eric !!!

    And also, I might add, a bit of common courtesy goes a long way…. such as please and thank you, show appreciation and attentiveness. Courtesy never goes out of style.

    Blessed Be )O(
    Gina Rose ext.9500

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