Your relationship with your child is the most fulfilling, most loving, and most exasperating experience life can offer. And the most challenging time for many parents is when your child is learning to become independent of you. While it’s a natural and necessary process, it’s also a learning process for your child, so there will be awkward, even frustrating moments.
Astrologers can actually see these natural cycles in your child’s chart. The “Terrible Twos” arrive when your child’s Mars, the planet of self-assertion has completed the zodiac after their birth date. Your child learns growing levels of responsibility with Saturn aspects–ages 7, 14, 21 and 28, approximately. These are often times of insecurity followed by tremendous growth. Jupiter–the independent thinker–completes its cycle when your child reaches age 12. To make matters even more complex, each child’s sun sign reacts differently to these growth events. Here are some tips for dealing with each sign:
Your two year-old Aries–a Mars sign–will be zooming around exploring everything at top speed. Offer them safe ways to blow off steam for your own peace and sanity. Saturn ages 7, 14, 21 and 28 can be frustrating for Aries. Patiently support your high-energy child and watch them grow. Age 12 brings a smarter approach to life.
Taurus two year-olds discovering independence often express this as serious stubbornness. Gentle reasoning and distraction help. At ages 7, 14, 21 and 28 your child will be serious, enjoying steady growth. Watch for insecurities and offer reassurance. Your 12-year-old might benefit from vocal lessons, design or other art education.
Your little Gemini will probably be a chatter-box at two. Enjoy their curiosity and plan a few breaks from their incessant questions by finding challenging educational outlets that can pay off by age 12. Ages 7, 14, 21 and 28 will bring a more serious, thoughtful child, so be prepared for them to seem a bit moody and listen to them carefully.
At two, your little Cancer expresses intense emotional energy and intelligence. Calming reassurance is the answer. At 7, 14, 21 and 28 your Cancer will be particularly sensitive and will need confidence-building. At 12, your child will want to understand relationships, love and family, so be prepared to guide them.
Your two year-old Leo will love the joy of self-expression and will expect center-stage, so just maintain a balance with some personal “you” time. By age 12, your Leo will have found an interest that helps them grow. At 7, 14, 21 and 28 your child will want to make creative interests real, so your support in this–lessons, etc.–will be helpful.
Your little Virgo will be curious about everything at age two, wanting to take things apart to see how they work, so finding them a constructive outlet for this could avoid some grief. Your 12 year-old wants to know about the whole world–right now–and possibly wants to save it. Encourage them in a realistic way, particularly at ages 7, 14, 21 and 28.
Two year-old Libra wants some independence while having fun with playmates. Allow them to explore relationships. At ages 7, 14, 21 and 28 you’ll see your Libra blossom after insecurities about school and friends begin to pass. Help build their self-belief. Your 12 year-old Libra will be discovering their attractiveness, so encourage their confidence to demand only respect from others.
The mysterious Scorpio child–a parent wonders what they’re thinking. They internalize so much so it’s good to ask them questions that allow them to volunteer how they feel, at any of these critical ages: 2, 7, 12, 14, 21 and 28. They’re going deep within, considering their surroundings and life. Honest, loving interest and activities will encourage them to open up.
Your Sag child was born to love independence. Actually, it’s more like discovering the world with abandon. Your two year-old wants to know absolutely everything, exploring and questioning. At ages 7, 14, 21 and 28 they’ll be trying to balance their love of freedom with new responsibilities–so your experience will help. Age 12 is when you child really blossoms intellectually.
Two year-old Capricorn is very serious about learning and managing their world, so take time to explain things carefully. They will listen. Ages 7, 12, 14, 21 and 28 offer opportunities to pursue personal goals, so hear what they’re saying about their future and offer support.
Your bright Aquarian child has one of those minds that always surprises a parent, so be prepared to have your two year-old come up with the unexpected. At ages 7, 12, 14, 21 and 28 your Aquarian will be experimenting with original ideas and approaches to who they want to be. Lend support knowing that you won’t always understand until later.
Your sweet, tender Pisces child suddenly becomes a handful at age two. Support that fierce heart of theirs by knowing that they’re discovering their own compassion. At ages 7, 14, 21 and 28 they will want help discovering new forms of creative outlets, so stay open to their ideas. At age 12, your Pisces will have a breakthrough of spirit.