Virginia in NYC writes:
My brother passed away four months ago. I asked him to send me a man, and with him, a sign. I met someone recently through online dating. We started on the left foot, but he greatly surprised me, and we have a very deep connection. Yet our paths seemed to be slightly different. But the other day, when I was preparing to go out with him on a casual basis, a very old, forgotten letter from my brother fell out of a book I had on the shelf. I don’t want to read into it too much. I’ve been through a lot, and I’m afraid to invest in someone who might not be he one. Could you shed some light into my darkness? Thanks so much! God Bless you.
Your brother is sending you encouragement to continue exploring the relationship with the man you are currently seeing. The letter was a sign that this relationship is worth pursuing, but it was not meant to be a guarantee that this man is “the one.”
You do have a deep connection with this man, and there is more to come for the two of you. Each of you has much to teach, and learn, from the other. While there is potential for this relationship to develop into something long-term, I’m currently not seeing wedding bells. In time, that could change. But as for the here-and-now, continue taking things slowly, and allow the relationship, and yourself, to develop further.
Your personal growth is a big chunk of your happily-ever-after equation. You may not want to invest in someone who might not be “the one,” but it is a necessary and worthwhile risk. By taking risks, you are allowing yourself to heal and grow, in essence preparing yourself for the one with whom you will spend your life.
I hope this helps you.
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