By analyzing the birth chart of a sexual Leo, Cortney reveals the reasons behind an unraveling sex life. And she finds "more play and less work" to be the message behind a husband's upsetting dream about a couple's much-loved dog.
Is it love?
I'm deeply in love with my partner whose name is Bill. We've been together for seven months now, and we're having the time of our lives. I know for a fact that his love for me is just as strong. But, I keep running into the same problem - in short, it has to do with our sexual compatibility! I'm a highly sexual being as Bill keeps telling me. And, he knows that he can have me whenever he wants. The problem seems to be that whenever I'd like to make love, I get turned down. So, I've almost given up asking. He said that he wants to be with me every two to three days. Now it seems to be once a week. My needs are not being met. What is wrong with me? He says that I'm very attractive and that any man would love to be in his shoes! What is the problem then? My birthday is August 6, 1965. I'm 42 years old and he is the same age. Thanks for listening.
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What does a dream about horses mean?
Lee in Brampton
Dear Lee,
First of all, I don't think there's anything wrong with you! You're a passionate Leo, after all. Additionally, Mars describes one's sexuality and you have Mars in balanced Libra. Libra strives for equality, which is why you're uncomfortable being the main initiator in the bedroom. However, your sexual stamina is revealed by the close Virgo conjunction of Venus (love), Uranus (attraction) and Pluto (sexuality). For you, love and sexual sizzle are one and the same. In other words, you need sex in order to feel loved. However, a Saturn opposition in your chart says you attract men who make you feel frustrated. This Saturn influence may also indicate some issues of control or appropriateness when it comes to your sensuality. Perhaps you were brought up to believe that sexuality needed to be controlled, which would be why you are with a "safe" man who isn't as sexual as you are. Also, it sounds like you're in a power struggle with your guy, who may have mixed feelings about your stronger sexuality. Currently, transiting Uranus is conjuncting your Saturn and opposing your Virgo planets. This means that control and lack in the bedroom are battling with your need to explore your sexuality. If you can't entice your guy to be more, uh, forthcoming, then perhaps a few sessions with a couple's counselor might help you work things out.
Best of luck to you both,
Cortney
All in a dream
My husband dreamed that he came back from somewhere to our apartment in Los Angeles - maybe from a business trip or Europe, where he is from. He was greeted by our Boston Terrier in our apartment. He went to give him a bath and when he got him in the tub, he realized I had had his leg amputated. One of his legs was a little red stump but he seemed to be okay. So what's the deal with my husband?
Isabelle (a Virgo) in Los Angeles
Dear Isabelle,
Dreams can be quite upsetting, but sometimes they're overly dramatic to get our attention. First, the dream began with your husband coming home from a business trip. Is he traveling a lot or working too hard? The dream may be saying that his schedule is hindering your relationship in some way. The next part of the dream was the shocking scenario about your Terrier. I'm assuming he's like your child, which means he symbolizes a vulnerable part of your relationship that needs nurturing. And since legs symbolize mobility, there may be something amiss about moving forward as a couple or individually, which may tie in with needing to work less in order to focus on your relationship. Also, bathing is cleansing, so perhaps the nurturing part of your union needs cleansing/healing. As a Virgo, last month, workaholic Saturn transited into Virgo and is sitting upon your Sun. Work and responsibility are undoubtedly weighing heavily on you right now. Perhaps you and your husband are overly focused on your careers and need to have some fun. Don't forget that playing together helps keep the flame of romance alive!
Sweet dreams,
Cortney