When loneliness hits, especially if you've been sitting at the singles table for a while, you may be tempted to rush into a relationship. Perhaps there is someone in the periphery who is attracted to you but you're not attracted to them. You may be reasoning around your feelings of ambivalence because getting involved means at least you're not single anymore!
Here are 10 reasons to hold off on settling for the wrong relationship just to have a relationship!
- It takes more energy to be in a bad relationship than the right relationship. Get ready to feel run down and "not quite right" if you are putting your energy into something you know deep down, isn't really what you want.
- It will hinder your personal growth and take time away from working on yourself. Self-growth and expansion only goes two ways: out or down.
- Your time will be compromised. No matter how much you may be "phoning it in" you still need time to see this other person. It won't be long before you feel crowded and overwhelmed.
- You will grow to resent the person you picked on a whim. The initial courting period is a very important time for both people to decide to go further.
- You won't be open to a deep and lasting love that is healthy for you. Other available people, who could be right for you, could walk right by and you will miss them because your eyes will be clouded. You must be available for love to receive it.
- Being in a relationship isn't everything you think it is. If you've been single for a while, you may be under the illusion that when this incredible relationship finally shows up, you'll suddenly be smarter, make more money and everything will work out to a whole new life, and new you. These things may or may not happen, but they won't happen because of a relationship.
- Being in a relationship is not proof that you are a lovable person. Grasping for love from any adult partner who comes along may be an attempt to finally get the validation you could not receive as a child. No partner can survive under this outsized expectation.
- You might miss the big promotion. When you go against your instincts repeatedly, eventually you won't be able to hear your intuition. You won't be as sensitive to what is happening around you. This dulled intuition will affect more than just your love life.
- There is always a consequence to our actions. Anxiety is a clue to what is really going on inside. Knowing that you are just holding on to someone until something better comes along or because you are afraid of being alone will create unease and even anxiety as time goes on.
- Throwing yourself into something out of fear tells the universe that you don't trust in the good things that are coming.
Take all the energy you wish you could spend on that special someone and throw it back into the world. Spend time with family and friends and know that though you may be technically "single" you are not alone. You are a part of this beautiful love affair called life. You are brimming with this miracle of existence all on your own.
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