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Source: <a href='http://www.californiapsychics.com'>California Psychics</a><br><br><p>While most of us are well aware that we don't always understand men, oftentimes we forget that they don't always understand us! A good communicator should keep her audience in mind. When you're first starting out, men tend to be a little afraid of commitment, and just as insecure as we are (if not more so). So consider how you say things before you say them. </p> <p></p> <p>In order to help you better understand what you're dealing with the next time you speak to a guy (yours or otherwise), check out these examples of what we say and what he thinks we mean:</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p> <table> <tbody> <tr> <td class=text><b>You say:</b></td> <td class=text valighn="top">What do you do?</td></tr> <tr> <td class=text><b>They&nbsp;hears:</b></td> <td class=text vAlign=top>How much money do you make?</td> <td class=text><br></td></tr> <tr> <td class=text noWrap><b>Next time, try:</b></td> <td class=text vAlign=top>Do you like your job?</td></tr></tbody></table></p> <p> <table> <tbody> <tr> <td class=text><b>You say:</b></td> <td class=text vAlign=top>My ex is a crazy stalker who won't stop calling me.</td></tr> <tr> <td class=text><br></td> <td class=text vAlign=top>I used to go there with my ex.</td></tr> <tr> <td class=text><br></td> <td class=text vAlign=top>My ex has the same car/shirt/taste in food.</td></tr> <tr> <td class=text><b>He hears:</b></td> <td class=text vAlign=top>I'm still in love with my ex.</td></tr> <tr> <td class=text vAlign=top noWrap><b>Next time, try:</b></td> <td class=text vAlign=top>Not mentioning your ex.</td></tr></tbody></table></p> <p> <table> <tbody> <tr> <td class=text><b>You say:</b></td> <td class=text vAlign=top>What are we doing Saturday night?</td></tr> <tr> <td class=text><b>He hears:</b></td> <td class=text vAlign=top>I want all your time for the rest of your life.</td></tr> <tr> <td class=text vAlign=top noWrap><b>Next time, try:</b></td> <td class=text vAlign=top>I was thinking about doing xxx on Saturday, wanna come?</td></tr></tbody></table></p> <p> <table> <tbody> <tr> <td class=text><b>You say:</b></td> <td class=text vAlign=top>We should try that place sometime. </td> <td><br></td></tr> <tr> <td class=text><b>He hears:</b></td> <td class=text vAlign=top>I want you to spend more money.</td></tr> <tr> <td class=text><br></td> <td class=text vAlign=top>I'm already planning our wedding.</td></tr> <tr> <td class=text vAlign=top noWrap><b>Next time try:</b></td> <td class=text vAlign=top>I like trying new restaurants/activities/whatever, as it relates to the thing you're pointing out.</td></tr> <tr> <td class=text><br></td> <td class=text vAlign=top>I'm going to try that.</td></tr></tbody></table><br><b>KEY POINTS:</b> </p> <p>Go with the "I" rather than the "we" early on. It's often better to invite him on what you would do anyway (or indicate that you'd be open to him coming) than to plan for the both of you.</p> <p>Be considerate of his feelings. Most men don't like the fact that you've had boyfriends before them (any more than you like hearing about their exes). So don't feel the need to share every detail about somebody who is no longer a part of your life (at least not at first)… if you expect to keep the guy you're with now, anyway!</p> <table cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=1 width="100%" bgColor=#0033cc border=0> <tbody> <tr> <td> <table cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=3 width="100%" border=0> <tbody> <tr> <td class=text bgColor=#cdeafc><strong>Are they still not hearing you? Need a way to get through to your significant other? Let one of our relationship specialists help. </strong></td></tr></tbody></table></td></tr></tbody></table>

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While most of us are well aware that we don't always understand men, oftentimes we forget that they don't always understand us! A good communicator should keep her audience in mind. When you're first starting out, men tend to be a little afraid of commitment, and just as insecure as we are (if not more so). So consider how you say things before you say them.

In order to help you better understand what you're dealing with the next time you speak to a guy (yours or otherwise), check out these examples of what we say and what he thinks we mean:

Go with the "I" rather than the "we" early on. It's often better to invite him on what you would do anyway (or indicate that you'd be open to him coming) than to plan for the both of you.

Be considerate of his feelings. Most men don't like the fact that you've had boyfriends before them (any more than you like hearing about their exes). So don't feel the need to share every detail about somebody who is no longer a part of your life (at least not at first)… if you expect to keep the guy you're with now, anyway!