{"id":795000,"date":"2006-10-10T17:00:00","date_gmt":"2006-10-10T17:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/2006\/10\/red-responds-76.html\/"},"modified":"2016-05-11T15:41:07","modified_gmt":"2016-05-11T22:41:07","slug":"red-responds-76","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/psychic-questions\/red-responds-76.html","title":{"rendered":"Red Responds: She Feels Like She’s in High School When She Sees Him"},"content":{"rendered":"

Dear Red,<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

\n

I really enjoy reading your column. You’re so caring and compassionate but also straightforward. I really hope you get this and can help me — I’m really desperate for some answers! I live with my ex-husband, but realized four years ago I still have intense feelings for my ex-boyfriend (M). I dated him for a couple of months before getting back with my ex-husband… I really need to know if he has any feelings for me or what he does feel at all or me. I’m not a teenager with a crush, I’m a grown adult, but I feel like I’m still back in high school whenever I see him. He asked our mutual friend if I still loved him… I wish I knew what he’s feeling. He’s married and I respect that and wouldn’t want to have an affair. Please help me anyway you can.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

\n

Thank you so much for your time,<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Trish<\/span>
\n<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Dear Trish,<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

\n

You come through as so unhappy. I’m very sorry for
\nthat.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

\n

I don’t know if it’s going to help
\nyou or hurt you to know that your ex boyfriend does still care about you. You having this knowledge may bring you
\na level of comfort, but it is also a bit dangerous for you to have, due to your
\ncurrent emotional state. I don’t
\nwant to send you off into a realm of fantasy and regret that brings you even
\nmore unhappiness and confusion.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

\n

Simply put, though having an affair
\nwith your ex-boyfriend is definitely in the realm of possibility, please don’t
\ngo down that path. Some affairs
\nchange situations and bring joy and freedom to all who are involved, but that is
\nnot the case with you and your situation.
\nYou have enough pain and torment.
\nDon’t invite more.
\n<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

\n

At this time, your ex-boyfriend
\nneeds to continue on his path with his marriage. Eventually that relationship will end in
\ndivorce, but not for a few more years.
\nYou will have your opportunity with him at that time, which fares far
\nbetter than anything you can have with him now.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

\n

In light of that, I strongly advise
\nyou to take this time to figure out who you are and how you want your future to
\nunfold. It seems like you’ve lost
\nyourself, and are just floating along to wherever the current carries
\nyou.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

\n

The life you’re living with your
\nex-husband seems safe, yet extremely stagnant and unfulfilling. This can continue on as long as you
\nchoose to let it. If you are
\nunwilling or unable to make this situation better than what it is now, you may
\nwant to think about letting it go.
\nYou don’t have to decide what to do about this relationship today, but it
\nis a decision that eventually you will have to make.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

\n

In the meantime, try and remove the
\n“love and lack thereof” equation from your life for at least an hour a
\nday. When you obsess, you block any
\nchance of finding clarity and conclusions.
\nTake that hour to step outside of yourself and find fulfillment,
\nsomething that is just for you. Set
\na few goals for yourself that benefit no one but yourself, and make steps to
\nachieve them. By creating some
\nmomentum and direction for yourself, you will be able to quit floating along in
\nyour existence, step onto solid ground, and come back into the realm of actually
\nliving.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

\n

Brightest Blessings,
\nRed
\nExt. 9226
\n<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\n\n\n
Problems finding clarity in your relationship? Let one of our Love Psychics help. Call 1.800.573.4830 or click here<\/a> now.<\/strong><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Dear Red, I really enjoy reading your column. You’re so caring and compassionate but also straightforward. I really hope you get this and can help me — I’m really desperate for some answers! I live with my ex-husband, but realized four years ago I still have intense feelings for my ex-boyfriend (M). I dated him for a couple of months before getting back with my ex-husband… I really need to know if he has any feelings for me or what he does feel at all or me. I’m not a teenager with a crush, I’m a grown adult, but I feel like I’m still back in high school whenever I see him. He asked our mutual friend if I still loved him… I wish I knew what he’s feeling. He’s married and I respect that and wouldn’t want to have an affair. Please help me anyway you can. Thank you so much for your time, Trish \u00a0 Dear Trish, You come through as so unhappy. I’m very sorry for that. I don’t know if it’s going to help you or hurt you to know that your ex boyfriend does still care about you. You having this knowledge may bring you a level of comfort, but it is also a bit dangerous for you to have, due to your current emotional state. I don’t want to send you off into a realm of fantasy and regret that brings you even more unhappiness and confusion. Simply put, though having an affair with your ex-boyfriend is definitely in the realm of possibility, please don’t go down that path. Some affairs change situations and bring joy and freedom to all who are involved, but that is not the case with you and your situation. You have enough pain and torment. Don’t invite more. At this time, your ex-boyfriend needs to continue on his path with his marriage. Eventually that relationship will end in divorce, but not for a few more years. You will have your opportunity with him at that time, which fares far better than anything you can have with him now. In light of that, I strongly advise you to take this time to figure out who you are and how you want your future to unfold. It seems like you’ve lost yourself, and are just floating along to wherever the current carries you. The life you’re living with your ex-husband seems safe, yet extremely stagnant and unfulfilling. This can continue on as long as you choose to let it. If you are unwilling or unable to make this situation better than what it is now, you may want to think about letting it go. You don’t have to decide what to do about this relationship today, but it is a decision that eventually you will have to make. In the meantime, try and remove the “love and lack thereof” equation from your life for at least an hour a day. When you obsess, you block any chance of finding clarity and conclusions. Take that hour to step outside of yourself and find fulfillment, something that is just for you. Set a few goals for yourself that benefit no one but yourself, and make steps to achieve them. By creating some momentum and direction for yourself, you will be able to quit floating along in your existence, step onto solid ground, and come back into the realm of actually living. Brightest Blessings, Red Ext. 9226 Problems finding clarity in your relationship? Let one of our Love Psychics help. Call 1.800.573.4830 or click here now.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2341,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[33274,610],"tags":[7,1508,132,1507,323,516,317,16,234,206,1325,1229,74,1404],"cp_author":[3578],"class_list":["post-795000","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-love-relationships","category-psychic-questions","tag-astrology","tag-cancer","tag-capricorn","tag-gemini","tag-leo","tag-libra","tag-pisces","tag-psychic-reading","tag-psychics","tag-relationship-advice","tag-sagittarius","tag-scorpio","tag-tarot","tag-virgo","cp_author-psychic-red-ext-9226"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\nRed Responds: She Feels Like She's in High School When She Sees Him | California Psychics<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Dear Red, I really enjoy reading your column. 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