I used to be someone who needed to be pulling all the\nstrings. I felt like if I couldn\u2019t be there to help, to make sure things got\ndone right, then they wouldn\u2019t get done at all. It took getting sick and losing\nmobility for me to really learn to ask for help, and beyond that, to stop\noffering it all the time. It felt important to me to be able to play a role, to\nhave a say, and to know what was coming in the future. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
When you stay in your lane, so to speak, you not only allow yourself to focus on the things you need, but you also give others the room they need to stumble, fall, and get back up. We can only make choices for ourselves, so spending time and energy trying to mold others into what we want them to be or trying to control a situation that has a billion little moving parts is going to end up draining you. In this week\u2019s Daily Focus, I want to look at ways we can focus on ourselves, and what peace comes with that sort of release. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
“This isn’t life in the fast lane, it’s life in\nthe oncoming traffic.”<\/em><\/strong> –Terry Pratchett<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n When you\u2019re used to being at the center of a family or work unit, it can feel like you\u2019re being constantly stopped in your tracks whenever someone else faces a problem. Setting a boundary allows you more time and freedom from stress, but also allows others to problem solve on their own, something that is important. Obviously, to be a reliable and capable person, you\u2019ll have to pick and choose your battles to find the balance. <\/p>\n\n\n\n “When everything is coming your way, you’re\nprobably in the wrong lane.”<\/em><\/strong> –Tom Snyder<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n On the same note as yesterday, if you\u2019re feeling like you can\u2019t get anything done, and you\u2019re constantly cleaning up after other people, metaphorically or physically, I implore you to stop. It\u2019s not on you to take on everything. In doing so, you may actually be depriving others of the circumstances that would allow them to build better skills. <\/p>\n\n\n\n “If you focus on results, you will never change.\nIf you focus on change, you will get results.”<\/em><\/strong> –Jack Dixon<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Setting lofty goals is usually a trap. Unless you have a\nvery clear, reasonable, and doable path for reaching said goals, it\u2019s likely\nthat you\u2019ll fail pretty quickly, reinforcing the idea that it\u2019s pointless to try.\nSometimes we subconsciously set ourselves up for failure in this way, due to a\nfear of moving forward. Instead, try to focus on the small steps like putting\naside small periods of time, or changing the way you speak.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cUltimately, the only person you can control is\nyourself, and really\u2014you have your hands full with that.\u201d<\/em><\/strong> –Unknown<\/strong>\n<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n If you feel like you\u2019re having trouble keeping your life together, take a look at who else\u2019s life you\u2019re also trying to keep together. How much of your energy is being expended trying to keep others afloat? Obviously, the key is not to cut all ties and focus only on yourself, but awareness is key to avoiding burnout and allowing others their fair share of autonomy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n “Stay in your lane. If you’re good enough, people\nwill move to you.”<\/em><\/strong> –Russell Simmons<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n The thing about setting boundaries is that while it may seem cruel at first, it ultimately improves relationships. The only people who can\u2019t handle you focusing on yourself are people who need your energy to get by. But healthy boundaries allow those people to grow and thrive alongside you, rather than through you. People will meet you where you stand, and with more energy and drive, it will be easier to navigate those interactions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n “Each spiritual journey has a right to its own fulfillment.\nWe must learn how to stay in our lane.\u201d<\/em><\/strong> –T.F. Hodge<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n The simple truth is that what works for one person doesn\u2019t\nnecessarily work for another. And so, we cannot really know what\u2019s best for\nsomeone else, no matter how much we may think we do. It\u2019s important to let\nother people find their way, even if it means stumbling and falling, even if it\nmeans harm will come to them. That is a part of life, and we can only learn to\nrun if we get used to bumping into things along the way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cLead by example.\u201d<\/em><\/strong> –Proverb <\/strong> <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Setting limits and focusing on yourself sets an example to\nthose around you, the same people you might otherwise be engaging with in\ncodependent ways. Everyone benefits when there are healthy boundaries involved\nand using your voice and power to take control of your life sets the stage for\nhow those who look up to you will behave as well. <\/p>\n\n\n Want to build a better future? A life path reading<\/strong><\/a> with one of our talented life path psychics<\/strong><\/a> can tell you where you\u2019re headed. And if you don\u2019t like where you\u2019re headed, your life path psychic<\/strong><\/a> can steer you down a better path.<\/p>\n Find a life path psychic<\/strong><\/a> or learn more about a life path reading<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n About California Psychics<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n California Psychics is the most trusted source of <\/span><\/i>psychic readings<\/span><\/i><\/a>. We have delivered over <\/span><\/i>11 million<\/span><\/i> discreet and confidential psychic readings by phone since 1995. More than a prediction, we are your guide for life\u2019s journey. Learn more about <\/span><\/i>how psychic readings work<\/span><\/i><\/a> and explore the <\/span><\/i>California Psychics blog<\/span><\/i><\/a>. With over<\/span><\/i> 500 <\/span><\/i>psychics online to choose from with <\/span><\/i>real customer reviews<\/span><\/i><\/a>, you\u2019re sure to find the best psychics for you. Call one of our trusted and accurate psychics today! Confidential and secure, real psychics, accurate predictions, 100% guaranteed. <\/span><\/i><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Understanding Your Daily Focus I used to be someone who needed to be pulling all the strings. I felt like if I couldn\u2019t be there to help, to make sure things got done right, then they wouldn\u2019t get done at all. It took getting sick and losing mobility for me to really learn to ask for help, and beyond that, to stop offering it all the time. It felt important to me to be able to play a role, to have a say, and to know what was coming in the future. When you stay in your lane, so to speak, you not only allow yourself to focus on the things you need, but you also give others the room they need to stumble, fall, and get back up. We can only make choices for ourselves, so spending time and energy trying to mold others into what we want them to be or trying to control a situation that has a billion little moving parts is going to end up draining you. In this week\u2019s Daily Focus, I want to look at ways we can focus on ourselves, and what peace comes with that sort of release. Saturday, February 5 “This isn’t life in the fast lane, it’s life in the oncoming traffic.” –Terry Pratchett When you\u2019re used to being at the center of a family or work unit, it can feel like you\u2019re being constantly stopped in your tracks whenever someone else faces a problem. Setting a boundary allows you more time and freedom from stress, but also allows others to problem solve on their own, something that is important. Obviously, to be a reliable and capable person, you\u2019ll have to pick and choose your battles to find the balance. Sunday, February 6 “When everything is coming your way, you’re probably in the wrong lane.” –Tom Snyder On the same note as yesterday, if you\u2019re feeling like you can\u2019t get anything done, and you\u2019re constantly cleaning up after other people, metaphorically or physically, I implore you to stop. It\u2019s not on you to take on everything. In doing so, you may actually be depriving others of the circumstances that would allow them to build better skills. Monday, February 7 “If you focus on results, you will never change. If you focus on change, you will get results.” –Jack Dixon Setting lofty goals is usually a trap. Unless you have a very clear, reasonable, and doable path for reaching said goals, it\u2019s likely that you\u2019ll fail pretty quickly, reinforcing the idea that it\u2019s pointless to try. Sometimes we subconsciously set ourselves up for failure in this way, due to a fear of moving forward. Instead, try to focus on the small steps like putting aside small periods of time, or changing the way you speak. Tuesday, February 8 \u201cUltimately, the only person you can control is yourself, and really\u2014you have your hands full with that.\u201d –Unknown If you feel like you\u2019re having trouble keeping your life together, take a look at who else\u2019s life you\u2019re also trying to keep together. How much of your energy is being expended trying to keep others afloat? Obviously, the key is not to cut all ties and focus only on yourself, but awareness is key to avoiding burnout and allowing others their fair share of autonomy. Wednesday, February 9 “Stay in your lane. If you’re good enough, people will move to you.” –Russell Simmons The thing about setting boundaries is that while it may seem cruel at first, it ultimately improves relationships. The only people who can\u2019t handle you focusing on yourself are people who need your energy to get by. But healthy boundaries allow those people to grow and thrive alongside you, rather than through you. People will meet you where you stand, and with more energy and drive, it will be easier to navigate those interactions. Thursday, February, 10 “Each spiritual journey has a right to its own fulfillment. We must learn how to stay in our lane.\u201d –T.F. Hodge The simple truth is that what works for one person doesn\u2019t necessarily work for another. And so, we cannot really know what\u2019s best for someone else, no matter how much we may think we do. It\u2019s important to let other people find their way, even if it means stumbling and falling, even if it means harm will come to them. That is a part of life, and we can only learn to run if we get used to bumping into things along the way. Friday, February 11 \u201cLead by example.\u201d –Proverb Setting limits and focusing on yourself sets an example to those around you, the same people you might otherwise be engaging with in codependent ways. Everyone benefits when there are healthy boundaries involved and using your voice and power to take control of your life sets the stage for how those who look up to you will behave as well. Want to build a better future? A life path reading with one of our talented life path psychics can tell you where you\u2019re headed. And if you don\u2019t like where you\u2019re headed, your life path psychic can steer you down a better path. Find a life path psychic or learn more about a life path reading. About California Psychics California Psychics is the most trusted source of psychic readings. We have delivered over 11 million discreet and confidential psychic readings by phone since 1995. More than a prediction, we are your guide for life\u2019s journey. Learn more about how psychic readings work and explore the California Psychics blog. With over 500 psychics online to choose from with real customer reviews, you\u2019re sure to find the best psychics for you. Call one of our trusted and accurate psychics today! Confidential and secure, real psychics, accurate predictions, 100% guaranteed.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5961107,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[7360],"tags":[33908,13736,3060,88],"cp_author":[34322],"class_list":["post-5961106","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-destiny-life-path","tag-daily-focus","tag-daily-meditation","tag-mantra","tag-meditation","cp_author-juliet-demarco"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\nSunday, February 6 <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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