The holiday season is upon us. This is a time rich with a combination of memory-making, home-cooked food, friends, feelings, and connection. For a lot of us, heading back home, seeing people we haven\u2019t seen in a long time, and dealing with complicated relationships can make this season a mixture of joy and anxiety. Perhaps it\u2019s stressful parents, political differences, petty games of favoritism, or sibling rivalry\u2014there is something about the human ego that is dashed on the shores of the childhood home. We are reduced to our base self around the people who know that version of us. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
In this week\u2019s Daily Focus, I want to look at ways we can remind ourselves of our own boundaries, power, and potential as we navigate what could be some rocky shores. There is so much to be gained from these times of shared comfort and community, that being able to ride out the more difficult aspects and reap all the rewards is a blessing in itself. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cFamilies are like branches on a tree. We grow in\ndifferent directions, yet our roots remain as one.\u201d<\/em><\/strong> –Unknown<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n I am a strong advocate for setting boundaries and, if\nnecessary, removing people from your life when they no longer serve you. I do\nnot believe you \u201cowe\u201d your family anything, but I do think that there are a lot\nof situations where, once we let go of the need to bring someone over to our\nside, we can meet in a place of agreement. Sometimes the best we can do is just\nbe present, and understand agreement is not the most important thing. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cLife is ten percent what you experience and ninety\npercent how you respond to it.\u201d<\/em><\/strong> –Dorothy M. Neddermeyer<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n If you\u2019re going to be in situations that you know have caused you stress in the past, it\u2019s a good idea to put together an emotional toolkit. You can\u2019t control how people are going to act, but you can control what you\u2019re going to engage with. If someone broaches a topic you know causes an emotional reaction, try setting a boundary by telling them that you\u2019d rather not talk about it, and changing the subject. It doesn\u2019t have to be done with any anger, it can simply be choosing to take a different route, one with fewer road bumps. <\/p>\n\n\n\n “All happy families are alike; each unhappy\nfamily is unhappy in its own way.”<\/em><\/strong> –Leo Tolstoy<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n From the outside, it may seem like other people have it easier. Their families are better off, or more friendly, or put together\u2014but the thing is that even happy families have their own unhappiness tucked out of sight. Don\u2019t hold yourself to someone else\u2019s standard. You don\u2019t have to engage with people who make you feel bad. You don\u2019t need to feel guilty for choosing yourself, and your own happiness. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cDo not learn how to react. Learn how to respond.\u201d<\/em><\/strong>\n–Buddha<\/strong> <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Setting boundaries can feel mean, but in reality, it\u2019s kindness. By knowing where you\u2019re most likely to react emotionally and taking care to avoid that, you\u2019re responding, not reacting. You\u2019re aware of the fact that this makes you sensitive, vulnerable, and emotional. Those are not bad things to be, but they do change how we respond and can cloud our judgment at the moment. Knowing is half the battle. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cRaise your words, not your voice. It is rain that\ngrows flowers, not thunder.\u201d<\/em><\/strong> –Rumi<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n There is nothing wrong with standing by what you believe in,\nbut putting others down, telling them how to behave, or what to believe, is\nultimately often destructive in relationships of any kind. It\u2019s okay to ask not\nto discuss things, or to answer honestly when asked about something, but\napproaching a situation with the intent to inform, not antagonize, is always\nthe better choice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cEvery time you are tempted to react in the same old\nway, ask if you want to be a prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future.\u201d<\/em><\/strong>\n–Deepak Chopra<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Returning to situations that create stress and anxiety can cause us to revert to some old, less mature behaviors. When you feel tempted, try taking deep breaths and visualizing the peace and calm you\u2019re seeking. Remember that you are choosing a new path, one without anger and stress and that you can choose to leave those things behind at the moment and return to deal with those feelings later. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cDo not let the behavior of others destroy your inner\npeace.\u201d<\/em><\/strong> –Dalai Lama<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Maintaining your inner peace during times of stress is not\neasy. There are things you can do to help you, however. Allow yourself small\nrewards during these times. Reach for an extra cookie, take a break, ignore\nthat email for a little longer, it\u2019s okay. You need that bandwidth for\nsomething more important. Whatever peacekeeping rituals you have when you\u2019re\nalone, a long bath, coffee alone in the morning\u2014can set you up for an easier\ntime once you\u2019re interacting socially again. <\/p>\n\n\n Want to build a better future? A life path reading<\/strong><\/a> with one of our talented life path psychics<\/strong><\/a> can tell you where you\u2019re headed. And if you don\u2019t like where you\u2019re headed, your life path psychic<\/strong><\/a> can steer you down a better path.<\/p>\n Find a life path psychic<\/strong><\/a> or learn more about a life path reading<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n About California Psychics<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n California Psychics is the most trusted source of <\/span><\/i>psychic readings<\/span><\/i><\/a>. We have delivered over <\/span><\/i>11 million<\/span><\/i> discreet and confidential psychic readings by phone since 1995. More than a prediction, we are your guide for life\u2019s journey. Learn more about <\/span><\/i>how psychic readings work<\/span><\/i><\/a> and explore the <\/span><\/i>California Psychics blog<\/span><\/i><\/a>. With over<\/span><\/i> 500 <\/span><\/i>psychics online to choose from with <\/span><\/i>real customer reviews<\/span><\/i><\/a>, you\u2019re sure to find the best psychics for you. Call one of our trusted and accurate psychics today! Confidential and secure, real psychics, accurate predictions, 100% guaranteed. <\/span><\/i><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Understanding Your Daily Focus The holiday season is upon us. This is a time rich with a combination of memory-making, home-cooked food, friends, feelings, and connection. For a lot of us, heading back home, seeing people we haven\u2019t seen in a long time, and dealing with complicated relationships can make this season a mixture of joy and anxiety. Perhaps it\u2019s stressful parents, political differences, petty games of favoritism, or sibling rivalry\u2014there is something about the human ego that is dashed on the shores of the childhood home. We are reduced to our base self around the people who know that version of us. In this week\u2019s Daily Focus, I want to look at ways we can remind ourselves of our own boundaries, power, and potential as we navigate what could be some rocky shores. There is so much to be gained from these times of shared comfort and community, that being able to ride out the more difficult aspects and reap all the rewards is a blessing in itself. Saturday, November 20 \u201cFamilies are like branches on a tree. We grow in different directions, yet our roots remain as one.\u201d –Unknown I am a strong advocate for setting boundaries and, if necessary, removing people from your life when they no longer serve you. I do not believe you \u201cowe\u201d your family anything, but I do think that there are a lot of situations where, once we let go of the need to bring someone over to our side, we can meet in a place of agreement. Sometimes the best we can do is just be present, and understand agreement is not the most important thing. Sunday, November 21 \u201cLife is ten percent what you experience and ninety percent how you respond to it.\u201d –Dorothy M. Neddermeyer If you\u2019re going to be in situations that you know have caused you stress in the past, it\u2019s a good idea to put together an emotional toolkit. You can\u2019t control how people are going to act, but you can control what you\u2019re going to engage with. If someone broaches a topic you know causes an emotional reaction, try setting a boundary by telling them that you\u2019d rather not talk about it, and changing the subject. It doesn\u2019t have to be done with any anger, it can simply be choosing to take a different route, one with fewer road bumps. Monday, November 22 “All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” –Leo Tolstoy From the outside, it may seem like other people have it easier. Their families are better off, or more friendly, or put together\u2014but the thing is that even happy families have their own unhappiness tucked out of sight. Don\u2019t hold yourself to someone else\u2019s standard. You don\u2019t have to engage with people who make you feel bad. You don\u2019t need to feel guilty for choosing yourself, and your own happiness. Tuesday, November 23 \u201cDo not learn how to react. Learn how to respond.\u201d –Buddha Setting boundaries can feel mean, but in reality, it\u2019s kindness. By knowing where you\u2019re most likely to react emotionally and taking care to avoid that, you\u2019re responding, not reacting. You\u2019re aware of the fact that this makes you sensitive, vulnerable, and emotional. Those are not bad things to be, but they do change how we respond and can cloud our judgment at the moment. Knowing is half the battle. Wednesday, November 24 \u201cRaise your words, not your voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder.\u201d –Rumi There is nothing wrong with standing by what you believe in, but putting others down, telling them how to behave, or what to believe, is ultimately often destructive in relationships of any kind. It\u2019s okay to ask not to discuss things, or to answer honestly when asked about something, but approaching a situation with the intent to inform, not antagonize, is always the better choice. Thursday, November 25 \u201cEvery time you are tempted to react in the same old way, ask if you want to be a prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future.\u201d –Deepak Chopra Returning to situations that create stress and anxiety can cause us to revert to some old, less mature behaviors. When you feel tempted, try taking deep breaths and visualizing the peace and calm you\u2019re seeking. Remember that you are choosing a new path, one without anger and stress and that you can choose to leave those things behind at the moment and return to deal with those feelings later. Friday, November 26, \u201cDo not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.\u201d –Dalai Lama Maintaining your inner peace during times of stress is not easy. There are things you can do to help you, however. Allow yourself small rewards during these times. Reach for an extra cookie, take a break, ignore that email for a little longer, it\u2019s okay. You need that bandwidth for something more important. Whatever peacekeeping rituals you have when you\u2019re alone, a long bath, coffee alone in the morning\u2014can set you up for an easier time once you\u2019re interacting socially again. Want to build a better future? A life path reading with one of our talented life path psychics can tell you where you\u2019re headed. And if you don\u2019t like where you\u2019re headed, your life path psychic can steer you down a better path. Find a life path psychic or learn more about a life path reading. \u00a0 About California Psychics California Psychics is the most trusted source of psychic readings. We have delivered over 11 million discreet and confidential psychic readings by phone since 1995. More than a prediction, we are your guide for life\u2019s journey. Learn more about how psychic readings work and explore the California Psychics blog. With over 500 psychics online to choose from with real customer reviews, you\u2019re sure to find the best psychics for you. Call one of our trusted and accurate psychics today! Confidential and secure, real psychics, accurate predictions, 100% guaranteed.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5960649,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[7360],"tags":[33908,13736,3060,88],"cp_author":[34322],"class_list":["post-5960485","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-destiny-life-path","tag-daily-focus","tag-daily-meditation","tag-mantra","tag-meditation","cp_author-juliet-demarco"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\nSunday, November 21 <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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