If you have a question you\u2019d like answered, email it to <\/b>QandA@californiapsychics.com<\/b><\/a>. <\/b><\/p>\n Dear Cameron,<\/i><\/p>\n I have a question about the man I\u2019m with now. Is he heaven-sent or is he here to teach me a lesson and then I move on? I\u2019ve been with him a little over a year and we get along great now. However, at first, he didn\u2019t get along with my kids and he didn\u2019t want a commitment. Yet, he stuck around.<\/i><\/p>\n When I posted stuff on Facebook about \u201cguys like him\u201d it would upset him. I was about to call it quits because he wouldn\u2019t give me what a girl needs to feel loved in a relationship. He didn\u2019t cuddle me, wouldn\u2019t hold hands, and wouldn\u2019t even share a bed with me. But, suddenly, things changed and now my kids want to call him \u201cDad!” It feels like a miracle that they have a good relationship with him. However, nothing has changed between him and me.<\/i><\/p>\n If he can open his heart to my kids, why can\u2019t he open his heart to me? I know he loves me, but I don\u2019t know how much longer I can take this. I don\u2019t feel like we got together by chance; it has to be like this for a reason. Why did the Universe make my kids love him? Why can\u2019t the Universe make him love me? Is he heaven-sent or not?<\/i><\/p>\n Stacy L.<\/i><\/p>\n Psychic Cameron ext. 5412<\/b><\/a> responds:<\/p>\n Dear Stacy,<\/p>\n I read your letter very carefully and I consulted my guides and my cards for my response. Thank you for writing, and for sharing your question with me.<\/p>\n First, I believe someone can be brought into our lives by the Universe, \u201cheaven-sent\u201d as you say, and still be there to teach us a lesson. And it always works both ways; you are here to teach him a lesson as well. I also believe that just because someone is \u201cheaven-sent,\u201d that doesn\u2019t mean we need to stay with them forever. In some cases, part of the lesson involves letting that person go. We learn the lesson and realize that it\u2019s time to move on\u2014to other relationships and other lessons.<\/p>\n My cards reveal, in several spreads, that this is a man who is capable of kindness. He doesn\u2019t seem cruel and appears as the King of Wands in my reading. This suggests to me that rather than deliberately wanting to hurt you, he has a fear of commitment. Perhaps he even some fears about physical intimacy. He may have a belief that not being physical keeps the relationship \u201cpure.\u201d I suspect he is also kind because children are usually a very good judge of character, and from what you\u2019ve described, they enjoy him and are building a positive relationship. I know that as a mother this is very important to you.<\/p>\n At the same time, while his relationship with your children is admirable, the problem is, your partner is not a teacher or a coach from their school\u2014he is your romantic partner. In order to be the \u201cDad\u201d to your \u201cMom,\u201d that means the fundamental relationship (his relationship to you) has to be intact.<\/p>\n You appear in my reading as the Queen of Cups. This is a woman who is deeply loving, who wants a passionate connection with her partner, and who has a lot to give. It\u2019s one thing if this man has some specific reason for withholding intimacy (depression, job loss, trauma)\u2014something that could be treated by a doctor or a therapist. But from what I understand, that isn\u2019t the case or he can’t share that with you. Whatever his reasons, to stay with him without confronting the situation means you’re signing up for more months or years of feeling frustrated and rejected. No matter how much fun your children are having with him, that isn\u2019t fair to you.<\/p>\n In the end, if you aren\u2019t happy, your children will eventually be unhappy too. While I think this man has some good qualities, as a romantic partner his primary responsibility is to love you and build a relationship with you first. The lesson for you in this situation may be that you are learning to ask for what you need, and if it\u2019s unavailable, then move on. My suggestion is that if you really care for this man, have another talk with him. Tell him how wonderful it has been to see him show up for your children, but bring up your concerns. Many of my clients know that when I see the Four of Wands in a reading, as I do in yours, it’s time to set a boundary or get some clarification about the problem\u2014knowing that it won\u2019t solve itself.<\/p>\n If you find that he cannot, under any circumstances, envision or commit to a long-term relationship that also includes physical intimacy, then I believe you should let him go. I also recommend, based on the Six of Cups upside down, that you speak with him soon. The longer he is a part of your family as \u201cDad,\u201d the more difficult your decision will be and the more painful for your children if you do choose to end the relationship.<\/p>\n My cards indicate that there is a loving man who, if your partner is unwilling to change, will come into your life next year. I believe that you can and should have it all\u2014a man who adores you and<\/i> who also enjoys your kids. That sounds like a man who is \u201cheaven-sent.\u201d Ask for what you need and remember that the Universe always supports you. Every opportunity is just another way for you to learn to love yourself.<\/p>\n Blessings,<\/p>\n Cameron<\/b><\/a><\/p>\n Do you have a question for Psychic Cameron? Send it to QandA@californiapsychics.com<\/b><\/a> and it could be featured in a future Psychic Q&A!<\/p>\n There\u2019s nothing worse than romantic uncertainty, but you don\u2019t have to navigate the ebbs and flows of love alone. A love psychic<\/b><\/a> is always available to help and a psychic love reading<\/b><\/a> is exactly what you need to get your relationship on the path to forever.<\/p>\n Find a love psychic<\/b><\/a> or learn more about psychic love readings<\/b><\/a>.<\/p>\n About California Psychics<\/strong> He loves her children. Yet, he doesn\u2019t give her the physical intimacy she needs. Is he heaven-sent? 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