{"id":5948424,"date":"2018-04-04T00:00:55","date_gmt":"2018-04-04T07:00:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/?p=5948424"},"modified":"2021-08-16T15:30:59","modified_gmt":"2021-08-16T22:30:59","slug":"psychic-qa-my-husband-cheated-on-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/psychic-questions\/psychic-qa-my-husband-cheated-on-me.html","title":{"rendered":"Psychic Q&A: My Husband Cheated on Me"},"content":{"rendered":"

Her Damaged Marriage<\/h4>\n

If you have a question you\u2019d like answered, email it to <\/b>QandA@californiapsychics.com<\/b><\/a>. <\/b><\/p>\n

Dear Psychic Reed, <\/i><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve been married for 18 years and I recently discovered that my husband cheated on me. It was going on for four years! My life is shattered, and my confidence is gone. He told me he still loves me and says he will never hurt me or break my trust again, but if he loves me, why did he cheat? Why did he break my trust?<\/i><\/p>\n

We still live together but it’s painful because I think about all I gave him and what he did to me. I gave him my whole life and I care for him so much and I don’t like to see him in pain. I don’t know if I should stay with him or not. Truthfully, I am not happy with him, but I think being without him would kill me. Is there any cure for my pain after my husband cheated on me?
\n<\/i><\/p>\n

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Psychic Reed ext. 5105<\/b><\/a> responds: <\/b><\/p>\n

Dear Sweety,<\/p>\n

I can feel your pain. Almost anyone who says \u201cMy husband cheated on me\u201d can follow that with \u201cMy confidence is gone.\u201d That’s such a painful, but normal reaction. 18 years is a long time and I understand that you love him very much. However, you have to stop taking responsibility for his actions. When you blame yourself or think that maybe you weren’t enough, you’re taking responsibility for his actions. However, when you accept in your heart that what he did is totally his responsibility, then it will shake your confidence a little bit less.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, millions of people are in the My Husband Cheated on Me Club\u2014where no one ever wants to be a member. I say this to stress that you are not alone and you should get all the support you can. When this happens, it\u2019s easy to feel abandoned, foolish, ashamed, and crushed. Don’t try to heal alone. If nothing else, find an online support group. Talk to someone, whether a friend or Love Psychic<\/b><\/a> like me and focus on nurturing yourself. Don\u2019t just go over what he did to you. Talk to others who have survived it. Shame thrives on secrecy, so while you don’t have to tell everyone, do not keep this to yourself either.<\/p>\n

Your husband does love you. You asked how he could do this to you if he loves you. Well, the parts of our hearts and brains with which we love are not the same parts that regulate our decision-making process, so being in love does not prevent people from making poor choices.<\/p>\n

Also, there is a difference in a feeling (love) and an ability (relationship skills), so a man can love a woman and still have lousy relationship skills, poor communication skills, and an overall lack of emotional skills. He can be in love and still mess up, fail to meet your needs, make poor decisions, lose control or just fail in general. The good news is that he has the feeling\u2014he loves you. The bad news is that he doesn’t have the skill to give you that love in the way you need to receive it. I think more women, including you, should ask themselves whether or not a man has good relationship skills instead of just whether or not he loves her. After all, what good are his feelings if he can’t properly express them, act on them or honor them?<\/p>\n

I don’t think you will ever trust him again, and for you, this would mean you would never feel peace with him. You have a lot of healing to do though\u2014with or without him. If you stay with him, you are going to have to build that confidence sky high to combat the lack of peace. If you leave him, you won’t stay single for long. No matter what you decide, you need to tend to your healing. If you don\u2019t, you will take this wound into your new relationship and it will suffer. So no matter what, you have to heal you.<\/p>\n

Your husband cannot heal you, no matter what he does or promises or says. You and only you can build true confidence and self-worth. When I meditated on this, I saw you leaving your damaged marriage, reinventing yourself, and moving on with a new love. There is a cure for your pain, and it isn’t your husband.<\/p>\n

Hang in there and let me know if you need some additional support to get through this.<\/p>\n

Reed<\/b><\/a><\/p>\n

Do you have a question for Psychic Reed? Send it to QandA@californiapsychics.com<\/b><\/a> and it could be featured in a future Psychic Q&A!<\/p>\n

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There\u2019s nothing worse than romantic uncertainty, but you don\u2019t have to navigate it alone. A love psychic<\/b><\/a> is always available to help and a psychic love reading<\/b><\/a> is exactly what you need to get your romantic relationships to a happier place.<\/p>\n

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