{"id":5942655,"date":"2016-09-14T00:00:54","date_gmt":"2016-09-14T07:00:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/?p=5942655"},"modified":"2016-09-13T09:27:15","modified_gmt":"2016-09-13T16:27:15","slug":"stop-letting-run-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/mind-body-spirit\/stop-letting-run-life.html","title":{"rendered":"Stop Letting Them Run Your Life!"},"content":{"rendered":"

Free Will, Circumstances and Influences<\/h4>\n

As a human being you have the gift of free will. That means you get to do what you want when you want. Theoretically that\u2019s true, but in actuality, from the cradle to the old folks\u2019 home, others do have domain over your schedule and your life to a certain degree. But not everyone should get that power. Sometimes you have to learn how to keep others from running your life\u2014because it\u2019s not their life, it\u2019s your life.<\/p>\n

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Circumstances<\/strong><\/p>\n

Free will aside, your parents and your teachers run your life when you\u2019re young. When you get older and get a job, it dictates the hours you work and how much you get paid. And if you\u2019re a spouse and\/or a parent, you know all too well how you have to sacrifice your time to accommodate others. These are circumstances. They exist in your life to give you guidance, to help you become a thoughtful\/mindful person and to give you a sense of what\u2019s possible. These circumstances also help you teach others, like your children, the same things. For the most part though, these circumstances are good\u2014you learn and grow from the experiences they sire, and you find ways to balance it all. And in those moments when you get a break\u2014your lunch hour or vacation, you can let free will reign.<\/p>\n

Influences<\/strong><\/p>\n

And then there are influences. Influences are avoidable, and often include the people who try to run your life, but shouldn\u2019t. This is the first place place to try and break free by exercising your free will. Here are the people who influence you, but shouldn\u2019t:<\/p>\n

1. The Drama Queens<\/strong>
\nThese are the people in your life who always have an emergency and it\u2019s always at the most inconvenient time for you. They will take over your life and your time as much as you let them, but when you need someone to talk to they\u2019re too busy or too hard to find.<\/p>\n

2. The Energy Vampires<\/strong>
\nThe friends, family and coworkers who exist on constant negative energy, they want to suck you dry of every ounce of empathy you have and make you just like them. If they succeed in crossing you over to the dark side, you can say goodbye to all that lovely free will\/free time you used to enjoy. You\u2019ll be consumed with constant negative thoughts about everything and anyone. Also, just like the drama queens, energy vampires have a knack for picking the most inopportune times to feed off of your attention.<\/p>\n

3. The Dream Crushers<\/strong>
\nThese bad influence experts will try to convince you that putting time into making your dreams come true is just a waste of time. Dreams, they will try to tell you, aren\u2019t real life. Let these people know that you\u2019re in charge of running your own life, not them, and if that includes making a few mistakes, then so be it. Dream crushers are not only rude, but selfish; they would rather see you out being silly with them instead of home studying or working to make a dream or goal come true. Exercise that free will of yours and choose to ignore the dream crushers\u2014you\u2019ll likely get the last laugh.<\/p>\n

4. The Needy Greedies<\/strong>
\nIf you\u2019re trying to figure out how not to let others run your life, then see if you have one of these needy people in your life. They\u2019re the needy greedies and it\u2019s all about them. They fully expect you to drop everything to help them because, well, they\u2019re more important. You can tell them that you\u2019re planning a romantic dinner with your boyfriend, and they\u2019ll find a way to have a crisis just at that precise time. Just imagine music, candlelight and the two of you sitting on the couch listening to the latest crisis in the needy greedy\u2019s life. Dinner is cold, the mood is ruined and best of all, they will have miraculously recovered the next day and you won\u2019t hear from them until the next crisis arises.<\/p>\n

5. The People Pleaser<\/strong>
\nThis is you. If you\u2019re giving up what you want to do in order to please someone else, then you have effectively let others run your life and essentially given your power over to someone who isn\u2019t you\u2014that should never happen. If you\u2019re going out of your way to please others and not paying attention to your own wants and needs, then this is all on you. Don\u2019t give your power away, and don\u2019t let others run your life and control your existence.<\/p>\n

Anyone or anything that is taking up your time without your invitation is controlling you, robbing you of your energy and your free will. If you allow it, then you have no one to blame but yourself. However, you don\u2019t have to let it keep happening. If you want to live your own life, you have to learn how to run your life.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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