{"id":5940,"date":"2010-05-10T16:25:32","date_gmt":"2010-05-10T23:25:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/?p=5940"},"modified":"2021-12-16T17:01:10","modified_gmt":"2021-12-17T01:01:10","slug":"stop-worrying-about-men","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/love-relationships\/stop-worrying-about-men.html","title":{"rendered":"Stop Worrying About Men"},"content":{"rendered":"

Reasons why it’s a waste of your time<\/strong><\/p>\n

Whether it\u2019s the guys already in your life or \u201cthe one\u201d you\u2019re hoping will soon come into it, every (straight) woman (and gay man) knows what it feels like to stress out about men. Will he call? Is he cheating<\/strong><\/a>? Why won\u2019t he pick up his shoes \u2013 or tell me how he feels?<\/em> All of these are common questions that can plague our minds, tying our stomachs (and hearts) into knots. The truth is, though, that they shouldn\u2019t. Here are three reasons why you should stop worrying about men:<\/p>\n


\nThe vicious cycle<\/strong>
\nWorry is a useless emotion. If you find yourself sensing that something is off \u2013 and being torn up about it \u2013 don\u2019t mull it over and over, analyzing the situation until you drive yourself nuts. Do something! The best way to calm your concerns (preferably before they turn into obsessions!) is to address them head on. Otherwise, you\u2019re just inviting more uncertainty. After all, the universe responds to our thoughts and energies. So if you\u2019re sitting around stressing out about what he may or may not be feeling or doing, you\u2019re actually creating the problem yourself!<\/p>\n

The power of instinct<\/strong>
\nWe may not all be psychic, but everyone has the power of intuition<\/strong><\/a>. And even if your connection to your inner voice needs some fine tuning, there\u2019s no doubt that you have a sense of things\u2026 otherwise, you wouldn\u2019t be worrying in the first place. Thus, if you have a sneaking suspicion, say, that the guy you like is lying to you or isn\u2019t that into you, one of two things is likely going on. First, you\u2019re right, and you should trust your gut. Second, your self-esteem and personal patterns aren\u2019t allowing you to properly assess the situation. Either way, all the worrying in the world won\u2019t help you, and if the latter is true, it\u2019ll only make things worse! If you\u2019re right, let it go (or at least confront it). And if you\u2019re not sure, seek counseling instead of stressing yourself out!<\/p>\n

The bottom line<\/strong>
\nFinally, no man (or woman, for that matter) finds insecurity sexy. Whether you know it or not, worrying about men is a sign that you don\u2019t feel as good as you should about yourself. It\u2019s not that we don\u2019t all get concerned now and again that something is wrong in our relationships, but if you allow concerns to snowball into serious stressors instead of speaking your truth and then accepting the answers you\u2019re given (in words and actions \u2013 whether they\u2019re what you want to hear or not), you\u2019re not acting from your own highest good\u2026 And if you don\u2019t have your own highest good in mind (and in practice), who will? You definitely won\u2019t win any admirers by bottling it up or allowing yourself to be a doormat. Rather than worrying yourself crazy about someone else\u2019s feelings or actions, focus instead on being your best you. Remember that you will not live or die by any man\u2019s feelings towards you \u2013 positive or negative \u2013 and recognize that YOU have the ultimate power in your life, no one else. Now take that power back!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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