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Know the Difference Between a Break and a Breakup<\/h4>\n

The relationship arena can be a “bear” to “bear” (pun intended) with life\u2019s tosses and turns, personality quirks, idiosyncrasies and misunderstandings. As a result, there are times when we all have felt it necessary to cool our heels for awhile. This is a break, not a breakup!<\/strong><\/a> Are you and your partner due for a break?<\/p>\n

Get a detailed relationship reading. Click here to connect with Psychic Tajah ext. 5732!<\/a><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

When Should We Take a Break?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ask yourself, “Am I feeling overwhelmed and anxious when I\u2019m in the company of my partner?” If you do feel that way,\u00a0you are in a\u00a0claustrophobic relationship. Recently, I had a client who\u00a0was going through a rough time with work and family issues. She was a single parent with three\u00a0children. She was working on her relationship, but found it was nearly impossible for her to make time for him<\/strong><\/a>. And when she did, the time was unbalanced and usually ended in disappointment. They either had an argument, felt like things were strained, or had to cut their time together short.<\/p>\n

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Reassess Yourself and Your Feelings<\/strong><\/p>\n

In her reading I touched on taking some time off. I suggested she take a couple of weeks to reassess herself and her\u00a0feelings. It is not uncommon for people\u00a0to subconsciously sabotage the areas in their\u00a0lives they\u00a0know need attention or adjustment. My client was able to see the times she\u2019d created disruptive events in order to\u00a0have more time to herself, though she wasn’t aware of her behavior\u00a0at the time.<\/p>\n

Compartmentalization<\/strong><\/p>\n

Introducing the idea of a relationship time-out can be awkward. How do you\u00a0tell your\u00a0partner you’re\u00a0taking time out for yourself\u00a0without sounding as if you’re\u00a0trying to end the relationship?\u00a0When a person is able to detach mentally, emotionally and physically from a relationship for the purpose of prioritizing their personal obligations, this is often called “compartmentalization.”\u00a0Men are usually much more able to do relationship time-outs\u00a0than women.<\/p>\n

Trust Your Feelings<\/strong><\/p>\n

Trust your feelings and understand what they are trying to tell you.\u00a0Perhaps your career is going into high gear and you just don\u2019t have the energy to give to your relationship at this time. Maybe a family event has thrown you a curveball and you\u2019ve got to put your total attention on it to see it through. Perhaps\u00a0a child needs extended personal attention from you.<\/p>\n

How to Tell Your Partner You Need a Break<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tell them about what is going on in your life that makes it necessary for the request of a time-out<\/strong><\/a>. Be very descriptive. Tell them how it is affecting you and what you know you\u2019ll gain once you get through this phase. Let them know nothing that they\u2019ve done has contributed to this situation. Let them voice any concerns and listen to what their ideas may be. Be ready to compromise. You may feel you need to have your weekday evenings freed up, but your partner may only be able to see you on weeknights. Find a day that can work for the both of you. If your partner has abandonment issues, reassure them that this is not a repeat of their painful past. Let them weigh in on what their fears may be. It may be a time for them to start releasing some of their old fears.\u00a0The Universe has a way of getting lessons across! Maybe this break and reconnect is just what Ol\u2019 Doc Universe ordered for your partner to evolve from an abandonment issue that\u2019s plagued them.<\/p>\n

Choose a Length of Time<\/strong><\/p>\n

As you begin this process, make sure that you have decided the length of time this will go on. Put a date on the calendar to remind yourself and let your sweetie know the break\u00a0ends on that\u00a0date. Remind them that this break is not a breakup. Check in with your partner via text, email, Skype\u00a0and voice mail, as time permits, to let them know you haven\u2019t forgotten them. Update them on your progress and share details with them. The more they\u2019re included, the easier it will be for the both of you. If you must travel abroad, send pictures of sights and places you’ve seen and been. Tell them regularly that your love is still with them.<\/p>\n

Breaks Work!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Now, back to my client. When they were able to reconnect after a two month pause, their bond was stronger and suffered no ill effects! They are still together today and I foresee wedding bells in their not-so-distant future!<\/p>\n

Psychic Tajah ext. 5732<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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