There is a fun, carefree and exciting feeling in new relationships\u2014you get dressed up and go out every weekend, you talk for hours at a time on the phone and the sex is mind-blowing and frequent. You feel like it can\u2019t get any better and you\u2019re probably right. It won\u2019t get better, but it could very well get worse.<\/p>\n
stare into the soul with the soul, not the mind, and find god. trace it back to the source.<\/p>\n
ventually you\u2019ll stop getting dressed up for dates. Sweatpants are good enough when he\u2019s buying two subs for the price of one. Her answers to your questions are now a series of grunts and sighs. And when\u2019s the last time you had sex? I\u2019m talking about sexy sex and not half-asleep, obligatory sex. Yeah, it\u2019s been a while. When did this charming, handsome and funny guy turn into a hairy, smelly lump on your couch? And when did this sexy, witty and smooth-legged woman become sloppy, stubbly and boring? If you’ve been together long enough, it can sometimes be hard to remember why you fell in love in the first place. But all is not lost! You can get your relationship back on track with some thoughtful insight from our psychic love experts. Read what they have to say and for a personal reading, don\u2019t hesitate to give any one of them a call<\/strong><\/a>!<\/p>\n According to our love psychics, there are eight things you need to remember when it comes to getting your relationship back on track<\/strong><\/a>:<\/p>\n <\/p>\n 1. It\u2019s a Choice<\/strong><\/p>\n It\u2019s important to remember that a series of choices both you and your partner made got you to this point in your relationship.<\/p>\n Janus ext. 5654<\/strong><\/a> reminds us we can always make choices for better or worse:<\/p>\n \u201cI remind people of their free will. It\u2019s their life-right to choose.\u201d<\/p>\n Deejay ext. 5435<\/strong><\/a> affirms that how we react to an issue is a choice:<\/p>\n \u201cIssues will happen because we are human, but how we respond and resolve them is the key.\u201d<\/p>\n 2. It Takes Forgiveness<\/strong><\/p>\n Once you and your partner have made the choice to get your relationship back on track, you need to forgive each other for any wrongs you both have committed. But forgiveness is not always easy go give.<\/p>\n Tajah ext. 5732<\/strong><\/a> shares that forgiveness doesn\u2019t necessarily mean forgetting:<\/p>\n \u201cOnce burned by fire every flame is suspect.\u201d<\/p>\n Althea ext. 9582<\/strong><\/a> explains that sometimes one partner gets blamed for the past sins of others or an old transgression:<\/p>\n \u201cSometimes it has more to do with what their mate did a year ago, or their dad did to their mom 20 years ago or their ex did to them eight years ago.\u201d<\/p>\n Lisette ext. 5483<\/strong><\/a> knows it can be hard to quickly get over being hurt by someone you love:<\/p>\n \u201cHurtful words and damaging actions are like trying to take back the ring of a bell after it’s already been rung. The hurt just can’t be undone.\u201d<\/p>\n 3. It Takes Work<\/strong><\/p>\n Fixing your relationship requires more than just wanting to fix it. It takes actual work.<\/p>\n Ben ext. 5772<\/strong><\/a> shares that you must start by confronting your problems:<\/p>\n \u201cIf you don\u2019t confront the problem you will get no resolution, so you may as well get on and deal with it.\u201d<\/p>\n Move beyond the need to be right with this advice from Makenna ext. 5791<\/strong><\/a>:<\/p>\n \u201cRelease the need to be right, and embrace the need to understand each other with an open mind.\u201d<\/p>\n Love is not passive according to Althea ext. 9582<\/strong><\/a>:<\/p>\n \u201cLove is a verb. Words without actions are like a million-dollar check from a closed account.\u201d<\/p>\n Maryanne ext. 9146<\/strong><\/a> reminds us that relationships are more than 50-50:<\/p>\n \u201cPlease remember that 50-50 usually means one person needs to give 100% for a time and then it will be the other partner’s turn to give 100% for a while.\u201d<\/p>\n 4. It Takes Time<\/strong><\/p>\n Your relationship isn\u2019t going to be fixed over night.<\/p>\n Love can be a slow or fast dance, according to Janus ext. 5654<\/strong><\/a>:<\/p>\n \u201cSometimes one may need to learn how to enjoy a slow dance rather than a salsa.\u201d<\/p>\n Ben ext. 5772<\/a><\/strong> says resolutions come with time:<\/p>\n \u201cWe have an expectation for an immediate resolution to what is happening but \u2018less speed, more haste\u2019 is probably a much better mantra!\u201d<\/p>\n 5. It Takes Communication<\/strong><\/p>\n You both need to learn how to communicate effectively with each other.<\/p>\n Janus ext. 5654<\/strong><\/a> reminds us that there is more to communication than just words:<\/p>\n \u201cNot everything can be communicated clearly between two people with words alone.\u201d<\/p>\n Althea ext. 9582<\/strong><\/a> knows that some people don\u2019t like to communicate:<\/p>\n \u201cIf communications drives him further away, he was never yours in the way you needed him to be.\u201d<\/p>\n Spencer ext. 5643<\/strong><\/a> shares the difference between listening and hearing:<\/p>\n \u201cWe are very good at talking. Some of us are good at hearing. Few of us are really skilled at listening (what I call deep listening) to the other person. We filter what they say rather than listen to what they are really saying and it causes unnecessary conflict.\u201d<\/p>\n Makenna ext. 5791<\/strong><\/a> knows why people don\u2019t speak up:<\/p>\n \u201cI see many clients not get what they need or want out of fear of losing their partner if they should speak up.\u201d<\/p>\n 6. You Both Need to be Realistic<\/strong><\/p>\n Even the best relationships have issues.<\/p>\n Maryanne ext. 9146<\/strong><\/a> knows happy couples fight too:<\/p>\n \u201cPlease don’t fall into erroneous thinking that \u2018If we are right for each other we won’t have any different opinions.\u2019 Of course you will.\u201d<\/p>\n Beverly ext. 5747<\/strong><\/a> suggests you don\u2019t project your desires onto your partner:<\/p>\n \u201cSometimes we also project what we want and need onto another person and they might not really have the qualities we give them.\u201d<\/p>\n 7. You Need to Keep Things Fresh<\/strong><\/p>\n The longer you\u2019re with someone, the harder you have to work to keep things fresh and interesting.<\/p>\n Cameron ext. 5412<\/strong><\/a> reminds us to always keep dating your partner:<\/p>\n \u201cEven when you are married, you should never assume you\u2019ve \u2018got\u2019 your partner. You\u2019re always \u2018getting\u2019 them, which means, you have a responsibility, as do they, to keep listening, to keep impressing them and to keep discovering. A relationship is a mystery that is never solved. If you think you\u2019ve figured your partner out, they are going to feel it. There\u2019s always something new to learn.\u201d<\/p>\n 8. Don\u2019t be Afraid to Ask for Help<\/strong><\/p>\n Every relationship goes through rough patches and you may need an unbiased, outside opinion.<\/p>\n