{"id":5898853,"date":"2012-10-25T00:00:30","date_gmt":"2012-10-25T07:00:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/?p=5898853"},"modified":"2016-01-18T08:27:58","modified_gmt":"2016-01-18T16:27:58","slug":"get-unstuck-in-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/love-relationships\/get-unstuck-in-love.html","title":{"rendered":"Get Unstuck in Love"},"content":{"rendered":"

Your Hormones are to Blame!<\/h4>\n

Based on the huge success of Taylor Swift\u2019s song \u201cWe Are Never Ever Getting Back Together,\u201d we can assume that many people relate to the frustrating cycle of breaking up and then getting back together<\/strong><\/a>, over and over again. The reason we get stuck in love actually has more to do with hormones than with love.<\/p>\n

Bonding Hormones<\/strong> When we become physically intimate with someone, our brains release chemicals<\/strong><\/a> that make us feel deeply connected to that person on a primal level. In women, the main hormone is oxytocin. In men, the dominant bonding chemical is vasopressin.<\/p>\n


\nOxytocin is sometimes referred to as the \u201ccuddling\u201d hormone because it makes you crave physical closeness. Besides being released during romantic intimacy, it\u2019s also released during childbirth, which then gives the woman the urge to cuddle her infant. It\u2019s nature\u2019s way of making sure babies are loved and nurtured. The effect of vasopressin on a man is not quite as physical, but it is still related to bonding. It makes him feel protective, even possessive, of his partner. He can become jealous and possibly even violent when other men try to claim his woman.<\/p>\n

Perhaps you\u2019ve seen this sort of behavior demonstrated with lions or apes in nature documentaries. Well it\u2019s not much different among humans! Psychic Liam ext. 9290<\/strong><\/a> explains the evolutionary purpose of these hormones: \u201cFor our forbearers, pair bonding was a useful tool in the desperate bid for survival under harsh conditions where struggle and death were constant companions.\u201d<\/em> Today, however, society offers many other resources for survival, and many more opportunities to meet potential mates. Unfortunately, our hormones haven\u2019t caught up with societal changes. There is even some acknowledgment of the power of bonding hormones in popular culture. For example, Psychic Jacqueline ext. 9472<\/strong><\/a> recalls that in the movie \u201cPretty Woman,\u201d Julia Roberts\u2019 character, who is a prostitute, says that she doesn\u2019t kiss clients on the mouth. Her character wasn\u2019t just being smug; there was actually some science to back up her reasoning. Deep kissing stimulates bonding hormones, and prostitutes certainly can\u2019t afford to get emotionally connected to their clients.<\/p>\n

Breaking the Bond <\/strong><\/p>\n

So now you understand what makes you keep going back to your ex. But what can you do to break the bond? One thing that stimulates the\u00a0re-release\u00a0of bonding hormones is hearing the person\u2019s voice. It\u2019s not uncommon for people who can\u2019t get over their last lover to call their ex\u2019s phone just to hear his or her voice in the outgoing message. If you catch yourself doing that, stop! If you really want to break the cycle, you must stop hearing that person\u2019s voice. Other triggers are certain scents, such as the cologne or perfume that person wore. Mentally reliving the memories of the good times also re-releases the bonding hormones.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s important for you to get involved with new people and activities so that you don\u2019t keep thinking about and longing for your lost love. It can take several months for the effects of the bonding hormones to weaken, so don\u2019t think you\u2019re safe after just a few weeks. The longer you have no contact with that person, the easier it will be for you to stay away. Even just one \u201coops\u201d night together can start the hormonal bonding cycle all over again. The only way to get unstuck in love is to, as the hit song says, never, ever get back together<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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