In many instances the one you think got away is really only leading you to the one you are really meant to be with. It is like a stepping stone to get to an even better place. There are even cases that the one who got away is getting you out of something that you were not happy with either as you will see from Sonya.<\/p>\n
Sonya from\u00a0Mansfield asks:<\/p>\n
My best friend of\u00a0three years and\u00a0I\u00a0became more a year ago. He called me his girlfriend and didn’t want me to see anyone but him. I was married during the time we met and when I fell in love with him, and when\u00a0he said that he loved me and wanted a life with me, I filed for divorce<\/a><\/strong> so we could be together. Right before the divorce was final, we got in an\u00a0argument and broke up. Within\u00a0three weeks, he asked someone else to marry him. Did he never have any intentions with me or ever love me?\u00a0<\/em>Get more personalized advice, contact a psychic today<\/a>!<\/p>\n Dear Sonya,<\/p>\n Please don\u2019t think that this man never loved you, because he did. He loved you very much. But as your lives progressed and your relationship changed, so did the way the two of you connected as a couple.\u00a0There’s nothing better than when your lover is your best friend. However, starting out that way doesn\u2019t guarantee that everything is going to end up in bliss. While I hate to say it, I\u2019m seeing a bunch of miscommunications showing up in the last four or five months of your relationship<\/a><\/strong> that helped bring it to it\u2019s demise.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Your ex-fiance\u00e9 was questioning a lot of things, like was he just an easy answer or out for you? Why weren\u2019t you showing him the same love and joy that you once did? Would you come to a place where you regretted your decisions, and hold him responsible? These are some pretty heavy questions. Questions he partly failed to ask, and you partly failed to answer. As the stresses and tensions built up, the two of you drifted apart, and the love that you once shared turned into something else.<\/p>\n I know this isn\u2019t the happy outcome you were hoping for. I\u2019ll even go as far as to say that it\u2019s not fair, because I\u2019m seeing a very unbalanced ending. It\u2019s really sad because you can\u2019t rewind, nor can you do a darned thing about it. Romantically, it\u2019s over. Hard as it may be to understand or accept, do the best you can to put it behind you. You\u2019re probably never going to understand all the whys and details, so stop trying. That kind of circular thinking only helps to hold you still. Let it go. Let him go.<\/p>\n On the bright side (and there tends to be one even when it doesn\u2019t feel that way) your ex-fiance\u00e9 actually did you a favor. He gave you everything you needed to free yourself from your marriage, so that you can have the happiness and husband you deserve. If you hadn\u2019t fallen for him, you\u2019d still be trying to figure out how to maintain a relationship that ceased serving you. Now, even though things are tougher and more confusing than ever, you are going to learn exactly who you are, and what your purpose is. You weren\u2019t meant to go from the shelter of one marriage to another. While you will be married again, it will be because it\u2019s right, and you\u2019re with the right guy. It\u2019s going to take some time, though, and you need to do your best to accept that. You\u2019re still healing, you haven\u2019t met the right one yet, and you have work to do. You have to work on you. I\u2019m not going to say things aren\u2019t going to suck for a while, because they will. But you will get through it, and the rewards will come. You\u2019re in the midst of learning a lesson we all experience at some point\u2014that everything does happen for a reason. Your world is supposed to be bigger. As you grow, so do your surroundings, your impact and your power. When you are at your best, you draw the best to you. So strive.<\/p>\n I know you aren\u2019t a mean-spirited person, but it\u2019s very human to feel the urge to smile when your exes fully realize what they lost. The time will come when they feel that smidgeon of jealousy of the life and happiness you achieve without them. You will have that moment, and you will quietly enjoy it, but without malice, because you will\u00a0have grown. That\u2019s a good thing! Be the best you can be, Sonya, because the only thing you\u2019ve lost is being held back by those you\u2019ve loved, which really isn\u2019t a loss all.<\/p>\n Brightest Blessings,<\/p>\n