{"id":5893932,"date":"2012-07-08T00:00:49","date_gmt":"2012-07-08T07:00:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/?p=5893932"},"modified":"2016-05-03T16:26:00","modified_gmt":"2016-05-03T23:26:00","slug":"sex-qa-obsessive-sex-fantasies","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/psychic-questions\/sex-qa-obsessive-sex-fantasies.html","title":{"rendered":"Sex Q&A: Obsessive Sex Fantasies: Threesomes"},"content":{"rendered":"

Sexual experimentation as a team is healthy. The fantasy of a threesome becomes about you giving \u201cconsent\u201d or permission for him to seek pleasure with another.<\/p>\n

He Wants a Threesome<\/h4>\n

Laura asks:<\/p>\n

My boyfriend obsesses over threesomes. Why?<\/em><\/p>\n

Liam’s<\/a><\/strong>\u00a0Response:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Greetings, Laura and thanks for your inquiry. From the energy of your question I\u2019m guessing that you\u2019re referring to the FFM variety of threesome<\/a><\/strong> (i.e., two hens and a rooster). The concept has been so clich\u00e9d as an aspect of straight masculine fantasy as to be almost laughable. What I find interesting is that people can still approach it as something risque and novel when such triads have been a rather standard part of human sexual expression for time out of mind. Both men and women not only make such fantasies a healthy aspect of their sex lives but often indulge in the actual experience in a quest for more decadent erotic understanding<\/a><\/strong>. For a man, the fantasy of being in bed with two girls is actually less common nowadays than watching his wife or girlfriend in bed with two guys. It almost has a certain nostalgic, 80s-porn flavor to it.\u00a0But for the brave and the willing, such experiences can go far beyond the adult film clich\u00e9 into realms of passion and ecstasy never before experienced.<\/p>\n

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Why does your boyfriend obsess over threesomes? Why does anyone? Men and women both have those kinds of fantasies. In relationships, sexuality can either be fixed and stagnant or energetic and evolving. And for those who see the sexual aspects of their relationship as a living, growing composition, true magic can be found. Your boyfriend is approaching you with an ardent desire, not just in terms of his own wishes, but also for the two of you as a team to indulge in some form of sexual experimentation. It’s novel. It’s naughty, and he’s including you. He’s being honest. As to why he loves the idea of two women in bed\u2014well, people harbor all sorts of fantasies and there are myriad reasons why. In the case of your boyfriend, I think he\u2019s always had the fantasy of making love to more than one woman at a time. By putting you in the room and into the bed, the fantasy becomes about you giving “consent” or permission for him to seek pleasure with another. It’s actually a fantasy about your acceptance of his needs. It’s also about power. Having two lovely ladies willing to please each other and him\u2014who wouldn’t love that?<\/p>\n

But this is about you as well, Laura, even though I notice you didn’t ask me about your role or place in the situation. I have a feeling you think men have some alien sexual mindscape that you, as a woman, cannot understand. When the fact is, you have an alien sexual mindscape that you don\u2019t even know exists. You think normal women don\u2019t obsess over anything sexual; fetishes and fantasies and all that. But they do. Our culture likes to tell you nonsense about women being less diverse in their sexual needs. It\u2019s a lie. Now, I’m not saying that threesomes are necessarily your cup of tea. They might be, and they might not. What I am saying is it\u2019s up to you to figure that out. I encourage you to continue speaking openly to your boyfriend about his obsession and more important, to share with him your deepest and darkest fantasies. If you don’t have any of those, go out and get some. Know your own sexuality and then understanding someone else\u2019s will be easier. It’s when you don’t know yourself that things get complicated.<\/p>\n

Liam<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n

Do you have a question for Liam? <\/strong>Ask Liam your question now.<\/a><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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