A reader hasn’t had a boyfriend in six years and feels like she can’t connect with anyone. She wonders if she should give up on her search for Prince Charming, her Mr. Right.<\/p>\n
Sarah from\u00a0Kamloops, British Columbia asks:<\/p>\n
I have not had a boyfriend in six years. I can’t seem to connect with anyone. There was one guy I was attracted to and I felt that he felt the same way about me. But he just never asked me out. When will I meet someone special<\/a><\/strong> or am I meant to walk this life alone? I am a single mother and 48 years old, but everyone says I look early 30s and I have done well for myself. But I’m giving up on meeting someone. I spent all this time working on myself<\/a><\/strong> and growing as a person, so when will this alone time end?<\/em><\/p>\n Psychic Red ext. 9226<\/a> Responds:<\/strong><\/p>\n Dear Sarah,<\/p>\n Please forgive me, for I am about to tell you some things that you may not wish to hear\u2026<\/p>\n First of all, if you give up on meeting someone, you will choose to spend more and more of your time away from the public eye, and that will make your chances of finding a viable romance even more difficult. I\u2019m not proposing that you go out looking for love, but I don\u2019t want the visions of you becoming more and more reclusive turning into a reality.<\/p>\n Secondly, stop looking at all the time you\u2019ve spent alone as some kind of punishment. It\u2019s not. Sure, it doesn\u2019t fit in with the fantasies and fairytales, but sometimes it is better to be alone than stuck settling for the wrong mate because you think that\u2019s the best you can get. You haven\u2019t been punished; you\u2019ve been protected.<\/p>\n Third, I am going to hand you the no-frills version of a very common, yet ugly, truth\u2014your soulmate isn\u2019t going to show up on your doorstep. I\u2019m not even positive that you are going to cross paths with your true soulmate in this life, but that does not mean that I see you going through life without love. Quite the opposite, really. Very often, the one we\u2019re meant to be with isn\u2019t our soulmate. Trust me when I say soulmate relationships aren\u2019t all they\u2019re cracked up to be. Consider this bit of flatline information as a blessing in disguise.<\/p>\n Life has not been easy for you, especially in the realm of love. Unfortunately, I don\u2019t have some magical cure for that. It is what it is. I also lack the ability to speed up time, so the best I can do is offer you some guidance so you can prepare yourself for the future.<\/p>\n Your next boyfriend is not the man you will make a life with, but is the man who will teach you how to live life more fully. Apparently, this is a lesson you need to learn, because you seem to get a little too wrapped up in right\/wrong, responsible\/irresponsible, and it is impeding and shaping your ability to cut loose and have fun. You can\u2019t not have fun with this guy. He\u2019s just an amazing person, and will be sent to you sometime in the winter months of next year. While this will develop into a fairly stable relationship, it is not one that will carry you through to the end of your days. You will enjoy him, learn from him, even love him to a degree, but you will also know that he isn\u2019t \u201cthe one,\u201d as you can\u2019t quite see yourself growing old with him.<\/p>\n Not every relationship is meant to last<\/a><\/strong>, but that doesn\u2019t mean that they don\u2019t serve a purpose or have a benefit. The two of you will be together for somewhere around two years, and then you will part ways. While it isn\u2019t going to be the easiest parting, it does make sense to you, so it is far from an excruciatingly painful parting. What will make sense to you, when the time comes, is that there is nothing here to fear. You will just be letting go of the man who lightened your soul and taught you about loving\u2014something that benefits you tremendously as your search for true love continues.<\/p>\n The Good News:<\/strong> The next guy is your guy. In so many ways, he is the male version of you. You are free to simply be yourself: no games, no fuss and no judgments. You may not believe in love at first sight, but he will after he lays his eyes on you. By definition, he is not your soulmate. By feeling and everything that actually matters in a relationship\u2014he is.<\/p>\n You aren\u2019t going to make things easy for this man. You will throw every road block and guard you are capable of dreaming up his way, in hopes of preserving yourself and your jaded views when it comes to love. But, like a true Taurus (I\u2019m not sure if that\u2019s his Sun-Sign or Rising Sign) he\u2019ll keep coming back for more. He does this in a strong “I-have-to-win-her-heart” manner, not a psycho manner. He\u2019s a well grounded, down-to-Earth personality who recognizes things in you that no one else has ever even taken the time to look at. Not only will this man sweep you off your feet, but he\u2019ll also put a ring on your finger to anchor you to him. This is going to be a love like none that you\u2019ve ever experienced before, and a man who will exceed your expectations every single time.<\/p>\n I really do wish I could speed things along for you and direct you to the happiness you long for but no longer have faith in now. But, I can\u2019t. Ultimately, I\u2019d have to say that\u2019s a good thing. Things will come together for you as they are meant to be. The processes and ups and downs you will continue to go through only add truth and value to the happiness you ultimately find.<\/p>\n Hang in there, my friend. While your struggles are great, your rewards are greater. To coin a phrase “The best is yet to come!”<\/p>\n Brightest Blessings,<\/p>\n Red<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n Do you have a question for Red? Ask Red your question now.<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n