{"id":5890551,"date":"2012-05-04T00:00:01","date_gmt":"2012-05-04T07:00:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/?p=5890551"},"modified":"2012-04-24T09:39:35","modified_gmt":"2012-04-24T16:39:35","slug":"shut-up-and-just-listen","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/mind-body-spirit\/shut-up-and-just-listen.html","title":{"rendered":"Shut Up and Just Listen!"},"content":{"rendered":"

Be Heard Through Their Frustration<\/h4>\n

At the height of an emotionally charged discussion, you might feel like yelling, \u201cWill you please just shut up and listen<\/a><\/strong>!\u201d But that tactic most likely won\u2019t achieve what you want to accomplish\u2014to be heard. Instead, use these tips and techniques to get your point across to your loved ones.<\/p>\n

Elements of Communication<\/strong><\/p>\n

With all forms of communication<\/a><\/strong>, there is a message, a sender of that message, a receiver, and a method of sending the message. Sounds simple, right? However, anywhere along that loop, there can be a breakdown. Even though you think you have an important message to communicate, you might not get the type of response you want from the receiver. Although each situation is unique, there are some common reasons why communication fails.<\/p>\n

Talking Too Much<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you want someone to listen to you, avoid rambling or bringing up irrelevant issues. Also, if you want to talk about a major issue that\u2019s been on your mind for a long time, avoid presenting everything all at once without any warning. Psychic Reed ext. 5105<\/a><\/strong> explains: \u201cIt is sometimes best to talk about it a little, and then let the other person have the same opportunity that you had\u2014to process their thoughts, sleep on it, look at different angles, then return to the discussion.\u201d Adds Psychic Gina Rose ext. 9500<\/a><\/strong>: \u201cKeep it short and to the point. If the other person is really interested, they\u2019ll come back and want more details.\u201d<\/p>\n

Being Too Blunt<\/strong><\/p>\n

On the other hand, be careful about being too blunt. There is a saying from the Vedanta philosophy that advises, \u201cSpeak the truth, but not a harsh truth. Speak kindly, but not an untruth.\u201d Although honesty is important, keep in mind that the receiver might have some defenses in place to help protect him or her from being hurt.<\/p>\n

In his book, Why Am I Afraid to Tell You Who I Am?<\/em> John Powell suggests a couple of ways to gently approach your loved one. For example, you could say: \u201cI really don\u2019t know why\u2026 maybe it\u2019s my streak of cowardice\u2026 but I feel afraid to tell you something, and yet I know that I must be honest with you\u2026 This is the truth as I see it\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n

Or try this: \u201cI don\u2019t know why this bothers me, but it does\u2026 I guess that I am just hypersensitive, and I really don\u2019t mean to imply that it is your fault, but I do feel hurt by what you are saying.\u201d<\/p>\n

Nagging<\/strong><\/p>\n

If the purpose of your conversation is to try and get the other person to behave differently, the book Semantics and Communication<\/em> by John C. Condon, Jr., reminds us that people \u201cseem to prefer to do things we think we want to do, not things we are told to do.\u201d So avoid outright telling someone to do something. Instead, get the other person to feel like it\u2019s his or her own idea.<\/p>\n

One way to accomplish that is to reward the desired behavior whenever the person does it. For example, if you thank your honey and give him a kiss each time he helps around the house, he\u2019ll do it more often\u2014without you telling him to.<\/p>\n

Not Engaging the Listener\u2019s Emotions<\/strong><\/p>\n

To make another person care about what you\u2019re saying, try to tap into the other\u2019s emotions. One way to capture their emotions is to tell a story that relates to the message you want to convey. In the book Tell to Win<\/em>\u00a0by Peter Guber, CNN journalist Anderson Cooper talks about the power of storytelling.<\/p>\n

\u201cEven if your only goal is for them to hear you, you still need to move their emotions,\u201d he remarks. During Cooper\u2019s news coverage of Hurricane Katrina, he broke from journalistic tradition and showed his emotions while reporting. As a result, his ratings shot up, and viewers couldn\u2019t get enough of him. His popular style of reporting, later dubbed \u201cemo-journalism,\u201d opened the door for other journalists to show their emotions and, thus, engage their audience\u2019s emotions, too.<\/p>\n

And remember that the emotions your story inspires don\u2019t necessarily have to be sad or heartwarming. Some of the shortest and most poignant stories are what we call \u201cjokes.\u201d If you can think of a good \u201ca guy walks into a bar\u201d joke that tickles your listener\u2019s sense of humor and lowers his or her defenses long enough to get your message across, then go for it.<\/p>\n

If your creative juices aren\u2019t flowing enough to get you started, call one of our psychics<\/a><\/strong> for some guidance on how to talk to your loved ones so they will listen.<\/p>\n

Exclusive offer: New customers can speak to a psychic for ONLY\u00a0$1 per minute. Select your psychic\u00a0advisor\u00a0here<\/a>.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

How can you get your partner to listen to you?<\/strong> Talk to a psychic and find out. Call 1.800.573.4830<\/span> or choose your psychic now. <\/a><\/span><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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