{"id":5890120,"date":"2012-04-10T13:00:18","date_gmt":"2012-04-10T20:00:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/?p=5890120"},"modified":"2016-01-18T08:50:21","modified_gmt":"2016-01-18T16:50:21","slug":"selfish-or-selfless","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/love-relationships\/selfish-or-selfless.html","title":{"rendered":"Selfish or Selfless?"},"content":{"rendered":"<h4>Do You Love Yourself Enough?<\/h4>\n<p>Are people in your life mistaking kindness for weakness?<\/p>\n<p>Kindness tends to come from someone in a secure position in a given situation in their life. Kindness that is mistaken for weakness usually has its foundation wrapped in FEAR (forget everything and run). <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/2011\/02\/spiritual-insights-love-has-no-boundaries.html\/\">In any business or relationship<\/a><\/strong>, the biggest mistake anyone can make about someone else is underestimating them based on their daily behavior.<\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/2011\/08\/are-you-in-love-or-lust.html\">Being kind is about love.<\/a><\/strong> And love has boundaries. Love is not about doing things that hurt you, or make you feel bad or cause another direct harm. When you are operating from a position of love, you can be kind without fear. Respecting yourself and others does not show weakness.<!--more--><\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Love thy neighbor as you love thyself.\u201d Being kind to others requires you to be kind to yourself first. This is a selfless act and should not be consider selfish. Sooner or later you must stop asking yourself why people keep hurting you and start asking yourself why you are allowing them to.<\/p>\n<p>There are two things you should never waste your time on. Things that don\u2019t really matter, that you have no control over the outcome, and people that don\u2019t think you matter. If someone treats you like an \u201coption\u201d you must leave them by choice. When we are hurt, we develop strength when we control our own environment we become more independent.<\/p>\n<p>To have time for what is valuable we have to make time for what truly is!! Self Love. What we are allowing in our life is a direct reflection of what we are encouraging. Upon judgment day your creator will not omit your behavior, choices or actions because you said \u201cthat was business not personal\u201d everything that we do comes from our own personal choices and character we must take responsibility for our actions. Start loving yourself\u2014this is not a form of weakness, this is about <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/2010\/06\/8-tips-to-boost-self-love.html\/\">personal integrity and self love<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: 12px\"><strong><a title=\"$1 per minute \" href=\"http:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/c\/c.aspx?lid=113977&amp;utm_source=NC_offer_footer&amp;utm_medium=NC_offer_footer&amp;utm_campaign=new_customer_text_offer_blog_v5step1\">Exclusive offer: New customers can speak to a psychic for ONLY\u00a0$1 per minute. 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