All human beings are opportunistic to the extreme and gender has no monopoly on bad behavior. Psychic Liam says that people who hurt us don\u2019t generally mean to do so. Modern men’s lives are a bit more complicated because women are the most oppressed and abused group of human beings in history. Continue reading to find out what other thoughts Liam has about one man in particular.<\/p>\n
Nahush asks:<\/p>\n
I read your article on the parasitic male<\/a><\/strong>. I want to know about the parasitic female. Now, I say that, because I have had an experience in life where the female has come into my social setting, taken over and made me feel like an outsider. I believe women have too much power<\/a><\/strong> in a social setting these days, and men just don’t have enough. I also feel like if I go for the girl of my dreams, everybody around her will support her. If I find out she’s not for me, then I am the one to blame, and I will lose all my friends. We all know life is unfair, but why does it have to be such a hard life for men?<\/em><\/p>\n Liam’s<\/a><\/strong> Response:<\/strong><\/p>\n Greetings, Nahush. I hope I can help you see things from a different angle. Altering a habitual point of view can be a frightening prospect, but you seem to me to be a spirited sort of fellow, so perhaps the attempt won’t be such a big deal for you. All our perceptions come to us by way of contrast\u2026 of opposition\u2026 weight and counter-weight. For every considered perception, there is an opposing perception in play, and the only thing that makes one more valid than the other is where the individual chooses to put their sense of value. You can flip the switch at any time and see things from the other side, if you only want to.\u00a0To deal first with your question regarding women and parasitic behavior, I feel it must be pointed out that human beings could quite easily be deemed a very parasitic species in general. Certainly there can be no doubt that all human beings are opportunistic to the extreme and gender has no monopoly on bad behavior. But I want you, in particular, to remember something very important. In sociology, it is considered illogical to draw conclusions about a certain group when that group has historically suffered under a yoke of cultural oppression. In other words, if one group has had to utilize undesirable modes of operation in order to manage social survival over several thousand years, it\u2019s a bit unfair for members of the oppressing group to suggest that those behaviors are somehow native to the oppressed group\u2019s nature. And make no mistake about it, my friend, women are by far the most oppressed and abused group of human beings in history. But I digress. To return to your situation specifically, I feel what we have here is a simply a case of projection. It seems to be all about personal misunderstanding\u2026 about one woman who just really pissed you off.<\/p>\n Believe it or not, people who hurt us, who insult or degrade us in the social game, don\u2019t generally mean to do so. When people are offended, their first reaction is to sincerely believe that the culprit set out with evil intent on some malicious and maniacal quest to do them wrong. Our culture has a dualistic concept of divinity that supports this black and white viewpoint, the good vs. evil paradigm\u2026 A steady diet of Disney films and ardent, media supported nationalism don’t help matters. The lady presented in your scenario \u2013 the one who took all your friends and turned you into an alienated pariah \u2013 was not intending to harm you. Indeed, I sense that from her perspective that things didn\u2019t appear anything like what you describe. In fact, I see that from her side of the situation that you were oddly sensitive, fearful of her involvement with your friends to such a point that you became difficult for everybody. It may very well be that it wasn\u2019t her that made you unpopular. Your jealousy of her getting any of the attention you determined to be rightfully “yours” made you rude and not so much fun for her (or anyone else) to be around. Once again, this is only a differing point of view. But it is one I want you to consider. You don’t have to accept it as your own. Just play with it a bit. The point is you were so convinced a certain thing was happening that it became your truth. And now that subjective “truth” is festering in your soul and ruining your life. You have become entirely too wrapped up in yourself, and it’s not doing you a bit of good. You can’t see other people’s positions\u2026 you can’t even ask yourself how they must feel. I suggest you forget about finding a lady love for now. You’ve a long way to go before you’re ready for that. And you can start out by getting beyond yourself. Take an interest in other people for a change, and let go of all that anger you\u2019re harboring toward the girl you think wronged you. And while you\u2019re at it, quit taking everything so damned seriously. This bit of cinema we call life isn’t set up on an infinite reel, and you\u2019re wasting a whole lot of precious time. For the future, keep the words of Don Quixote in mind, “Be kind to all women, to all men just.”<\/p>\n Liam<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n Do you have a question for Liam? <\/strong>Ask Liam your question now.<\/a><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n