{"id":5889740,"date":"2012-04-15T00:00:35","date_gmt":"2012-04-15T07:00:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/?p=5889740"},"modified":"2013-05-28T15:22:33","modified_gmt":"2013-05-28T22:22:33","slug":"red-responds-how-to-stop-caring","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/psychic-questions\/red-responds-how-to-stop-caring.html","title":{"rendered":"Red Responds: How to Stop Caring"},"content":{"rendered":"

When your heart has had enough, but your mind won’t let it go, this advice will help. See the road ahead and you will move on from this heartache.<\/p>\n

When It’s Over and You Want to Let it Go<\/h4>\n

AC from Donetsk asks:<\/p>\n

Exactly a year ago, I broke up with a man<\/a><\/strong> I’d had a tumultuous, and if I’m honest, addictive, relationship with for a few years. Even though I knew it was the right thing to do, the aftermath of breaking up led to the worst year of my life. I still struggle to accept what happened and move on. I have just heard rumors that he is going through a very difficult time, the details were very hazy, but there was even the suggestion that he may have gotten someone pregnant by accident. Hearing this, although perhaps completely unfounded, has sent me back into the downward spiral of pain and anxiety about our relationship. I guess I just want to know \u2013 are these rumors true? What should I be prepared for in this situation? How can I STOP caring once and for all? Any insight you could give me to help the pain go away would be eternally appreciated.<\/em><\/p>\n

Psychic Red ext. 9226<\/a> Responds:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Dear AC,<\/p>\n

I\u2019m so sorry that things have been so rough for you. Unfortunately, karmic relationships<\/a>\u00a0<\/strong>are often the most difficult to recover from. This relationship was soaked in karma\u2026<\/p>\n

There is a solid line of fact in the rumors you\u2019ve heard. That certainly isn\u2019t what you were hoping to hear, nor does it do anything overwhelmingly productive for your healing path. But, that doesn\u2019t mean you can\u2019t use the pain this swirls up to your benefit. You can, if you choose to.<\/p>\n

When it comes to lost love and broken hearts, there is no magic pill. There is no advice that is so wise and so sage that it erases the pain and liberates the spirit. Sometimes, the only way out is through.<\/p>\n

You are correct, though. You did the right thing. I often say, \u201cBeing bad is easy, it\u2019s being good that\u2019s hard.\u201d Corny as it may be, it\u2019s also true, and applicable to more areas of our lives than just our actions.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s very easy to get swept up in emotion and memory, and it’s challenging to stay present. Being present doesn\u2019t mean you forget your past, or find the right button to push that makes all the love and pain of your history seem like a scene from someone else\u2019s movie. But, being present does mean that you center yourself and focus your energy on Right Now, and all the truths of this moment in time. So, you are going to continue to care about him, but you need to realize that it is more important and productive to shift your focus to caring about you. Spend some time in quiet meditation<\/a><\/strong> to try and gain some clarity about the truest essence and effect this relationship had on you, and how it has shaped you into the person you have become. I\u2019m not saying peel of scabs to old wounds so that you can focus on his flaws and shortcomings, though you might go through some of that. So, re-live it, then let it go \u2013 it no longer serves you. In time, you\u2019ll get to a place where the good memories, and the \u201cwhat coulda\/woulda\/shoulda beens\u201d will seem a little lacking. If you\u2019re diligent, you will get to that place that I call, \u201cHUH!\u201d It\u2019s that moment when clarity washes you clean, understanding warms your center, and you are finally free to just, well, BE. Instead of tormenting yourself with your burden, you will become weightless with the exuberance of someone who finally knows their worth and capability. When you\u2019re there, you can look back, see the good, bad and ugly. But it won\u2019t rule you. Even though you still may care, this relationship falls away from defining you and into a place where it simply becomes an intense stretch of scenery in this life\u2019s journey.<\/p>\n

Through my own experiences, and more so, through the thousands of other lives I\u2019ve stepped into while giving readings, I\u2019ve learned that there really are two ways of viewing any situation. Both ways are valid, but when a person is in balance with themselves \u2013 the truths are much less harsh. It will take you time, effort, and a lot of hard work to get from, \u201cHe moved on without me\u201d to \u201cWow, if I\u2019d allowed myself to stay stuck, I would never have\/had\/achieved this happy, beautiful and loving life that I\u2019m living now!\u201d I do see you getting there. So, instead of making your mission one of letting go, understand that this is your cue to move forward; a chance to grow and change with an open heart. History refers to what was, but living is about not only what is \u2013 but everything that can be\u2026<\/p>\n

You will get through this. I promise. Happiness will come; when you\u2019ve healed enough to embrace it.<\/p>\n

Brightest Blessings,<\/p>\n

Red<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Do you have a question for Red? Ask Red your question now.<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Exclusive offer: New customers can speak to a psychic for ONLY\u00a0$1 per minute. Select your psychic\u00a0advisor\u00a0here<\/a>.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Are you ready to let go of your heartache?<\/strong> Talk to a psychic to see what’s ahead to look forward to. Call 1.800.573.4830<\/span> or choose your psychic now. <\/a><\/span><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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