{"id":5888179,"date":"2012-02-16T13:00:17","date_gmt":"2012-02-16T21:00:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/?p=5888179"},"modified":"2012-02-16T16:42:49","modified_gmt":"2012-02-17T00:42:49","slug":"letting-go-of-loved-ones","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/mind-body-spirit\/letting-go-of-loved-ones.html","title":{"rendered":"Letting Go of Loved Ones"},"content":{"rendered":"

Understanding Life’s Hardest Lesson<\/h4>\n

I recently lost my best friend to illness. She was thirty-seven going on eighteen, with an eleven-year-old daughter. Carol was funny, sensitive, caring. Also a thief, a liar and a drug addict. I loved and conflicted with her, but the love always won out<\/a><\/strong>. She\u2019d do anything for me, and always answered my 2 a.m. phone calls. We talked about everything, but mostly our pets.<\/p>\n

I knew she didn\u2019t have long. She\u2019d been sick for years, finally on a feeding tube and going to the hospital every other week to stay for a few days while they tried to raise her weight and stop intestinal blockages. I kept thinking about how I\u2019d known her for twenty-eight years, how we had good and bad times, how I couldn\u2019t watch her drown in her addiction to pain medications<\/a><\/strong>, and I only called rather than stopped by.<\/p>\n

Then she died on a Thursday night at 9:45.<\/p>\n

I dreamed about a call with her. It was one of the good calls. We connected; we talked about everything. Then I remembered she\u2019d passed. I wondered how we could be talking. I woke up. The last few times I\u2019d had a living conversation with her, she\u2019d opened up about her life more than ever. It had seemed like she was coming back to life from her sickness, but that\u2019s not the way it happened.<\/p>\n

All of us deal with dying differently. Many people rely on their personal beliefs to carry them through losing someone close to them to death. If you have lost a loved one, I suggest looking for things you wouldn\u2019t normally notice. On a trip two weeks after Carol died, I found a stone for sale in a store. She had loaned me one of these rare stones a few years back. It was said to \u201cbring the male organ to you!\u201d I\u2019d gone through a divorce and was ready to start dating. Two weeks after carrying the stone, I met the man I\u2019m married to now and gave her back the mystical, oblong stone.<\/p>\n

As soon as I saw them in the store, I had to have one. What I didn\u2019t know was that my husband was in a record store a few blocks down buying a record of a musician whose DVD Carol had lent me and I\u2019d never watched or given back. She used to bug me about that, and he got it, thinking of her. When we met up again and swapped stories, we smiled. Carol was with us on that trip, loving it.<\/p>\n

I believe it\u2019s how you look at it, not just beliefs. I think there are signs everywhere the person you loved who passed is around. Look for signs, and when you find them, (and you will), don\u2019t feel sad. That\u2019s my advice. Rejoice the person is still around, revel in the fact you know he or she will meet you again. The people who died don\u2019t want you to be sad. Well, maybe a little, in Carol\u2019s case. She always loved attention, especially of the morbid kind! When those people remind you in little ways they\u2019re still around, grin to yourself, maybe shed a tear you can\u2019t call them and laugh with them.<\/p>\n

And if that\u2019s not enough, you can get in touch with your spiritual side. I believe everyone has it. If you pray, say a prayer to your passed loved one. You may hear, somewhere in your mind when it\u2019s quiet, a response. It may sound like a thought. This is what mediums like us do.<\/a><\/strong> Don\u2019t worry about being wrong or right, justified or following a belief set for you a long time ago. Death teaches nothing\u2019s expected or known, as does the birth of a child.<\/p>\n

On the day of Carol\u2019s funeral, my old college roommate gave birth to her first baby. I have a feeling while Carol enjoyed all of us mourning her, and I just know she did, she also loved a baby was new to the world on that day and everyone at her funeral knew it. The unexpected opens your eyes, and I suggest you don\u2019t blink too much when that happens. And keep an eye out for those little things the passed loved one shows you. They\u2019re everywhere \u2013 you just have to be open to seeing them.<\/p>\n

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Who is your <\/em>true love?<\/strong> Talk to a psychic and find out. Call 1.800.573.4830<\/span> or choose your psychic now. <\/a><\/span><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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