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If you’ve never met their friends or relatives, they don’t stay overnight, they are only available on the weekend, they might be hiding something.<\/p>\n

Is Mr. Right Now Enough?<\/h4>\n

Chrystal from Vicksburg asks:<\/p>\n

I have been involved with a man for close to a year now. When we are together, we seem to share a closeness that I haven’t experienced in a long time. We live approximately thirty minutes away from each other, and we both have small children from previous relationships<\/a><\/strong>. I keep asking him to spend nights with me, and every time there is some excuse why he can’t. I truly feel that he shares a home with another woman; therefore, he can’t stay the night with me. I have been frustrated and confused over this ordeal, and I’m ready to throw in the towel. What do you recommend I do?<\/em><\/p>\n

Psychic Red ext. 9226<\/a> Responds:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Dear Chrystal,<\/p>\n

It\u2019s time for you to sit down with your lover and really discuss the relationship. You see, he isn\u2019t running home, because he has a dutiful partner waiting for him. But it is also true that his house isn\u2019t his alone. While this arrangement isn\u2019t romantic, it is problematic, because he is hiding his relationship with you.<\/p>\n

Part of the reason why he won\u2019t sleep over is image, the other part is pure commitment-phobia. You see, if he spends nights with you, he can no longer deny he is involved. With the current arrangement, he has a level of freedom and comfort. But when he starts sleeping over, all of that will change, including creating complications with the arrangement he has with his sometimes roommate. I will admit, this is an odd dynamic, but he does have a way of getting people, particularly women, to take care of him and his needs \u2013 without revealing too much truth or information.<\/p>\n

He\u2019s not a bad guy, but his walls are high and his boundaries are firm. Even though you do share a connection, and you do enjoy his company, some part of you recognizes that he isn\u2019t freely surrendering to you or this relationship. Sure, he\u2019s afraid to, but where exactly is that leaving you?<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not going to tell you to keep him or dump him, that is your decision to make. But I am going to tell you that if continue suppressing your thoughts and fears, this relationship is going to eat you alive. Furthermore, while it doesn\u2019t appear like your time with this man is over, it also doesn\u2019t look like he\u2019s the one you are meant to build a life with, either.<\/p>\n

In time, the two of you will go your separate ways, and a man who is actually emotionally available is going to take your current boyfriend’s place.<\/p>\n

Chrystal, sometimes the game remains the same, but the rules are what changes. As far as this relationship goes, your lover never gave you the rule book. Having said that, if what this man brings into your world right now is enough, understand that it\u2019s okay if you roll with it. But do so knowing that you are going to want more, and more than he is willing to give, and therein lies the problem. He may not be Mr. Right<\/a><\/strong>, but that doesn\u2019t mean he is a poor choice for Mr. Right Now. That might seem like a very cold statement, but it does bring a stronger level of balance into this relationship. The two of you do help to heal one another, and there\u2019s nothing wrong or bad in that. But each of you has a very separate future to discover. That knowledge doesn\u2019t create a need to end things abruptly or badly, unless, of course, that is what you want.<\/p>\n

Talk to him. Prepare yourself for him to evade your questions and the issues at hand, because that is what he will do. But know that you have a bit of the upper hand, because he will keep coming back for as long as you want him to. This relationship will not grow and evolve into what you want, but for now, it does seem to offer aspects of what you need. So, enjoy the good, learn from the bad, and you\u2019ll know when it\u2019s time to move on and let go.<\/p>\n

Brightest Blessings,<\/p>\n

Red<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Do you have a question for Red? Ask Red your question now.<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Exclusive offer: New customers can speak to a psychic for ONLY\u00a0$1 per minute. Select your psychic\u00a0advisor\u00a0here<\/a>.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Is it time to let go of Mr. Right Now and find Mr. Right?<\/strong> Talk to a psychic and find when that will happen. Call 1.800.573.4830<\/span> or choose your psychic now. <\/a><\/span><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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