{"id":5887972,"date":"2012-03-11T00:00:23","date_gmt":"2012-03-11T08:00:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/?p=5887972"},"modified":"2016-05-03T16:27:34","modified_gmt":"2016-05-03T23:27:34","slug":"sex-qa-the-key-to-sexual-power","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/psychic-questions\/sex-qa-the-key-to-sexual-power.html","title":{"rendered":"Sex Q&A: Changing Someone to Meet Your Standards"},"content":{"rendered":"

Should They Change for You?<\/h4>\n

Naomi from Loveland, Colorado asks:<\/p>\n

I see some people accept multiple sexual partners, but I cannot accept it. At the same time, there is this man that is still more attractive than others for me. I’ve been attracted to him for about a year. He has been changing in some ways. Some parts I like (more interested in practicing a spiritual path), but some parts I do not like (it seems that his ego is becoming larger<\/a><\/strong>). Is he still attracted to others? It’s not easy to let go of my interest in him \u2013\u00a0unless someone more\u00a0attractive\u00a0shows up. And to your comment, I’ve been more attracted to younger men than older since in my late\u00a0twenties. I’d like to be with a younger man.<\/em><\/p>\n

Liam’s<\/a><\/strong> Response:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Greetings, Naomi. Whenever someone makes it a point to tell me that they cannot accept a certain form of natural sexual behavior, I have to wonder about their motivation and the true spirit of the statement. So often people say they cannot accept something as a personal choice when what they really mean is they will not accept it as somebody else\u2019s choice. Once again, I am faced with an inquiry that illustrates the hypocrisy germane to our modern notion of romantic love. I have to wonder why you chose to ask advice from me when most certainly what I say will not be anything you care to hear. However, once again\u2026 here we go.<\/p>\n

I climb up on my soapbox here and expound time after time: the simple fact that in order to honestly and completely commit to any person for any length of time, you really have to like them. You have to enjoy spending time with them. If you were in love with this man, then you would accept him for the person that he is. You\u2019d accept his sexual appetites and whatever form of spiritual expression he felt was appropriate for his life at this time. You\u2019d even accept that big ol\u2019 ego of his that seems to trouble you so. You would want him to be happy more than you\u2019d worry about if he made you happy. But you don’t love this man, Naomi. You don\u2019t even really like him. What you want is to have sex with him. The truth is if he wasn’t involved with a bunch of rival women, you probably wouldn’t even want that. Because what lies at the core of this whole situation is the true and ugly heart of the conservative romantic ideal: Power. You feel that sleeping with this man, while not having a commitment of monogamy from him, puts you on the outs with social grace and conventional approval. But you\u2019re not willing to give him up. So now you want to force him to be something he’s not, so you can keep having sex with him. More than that, you want the power trip of turning a lover of many women into a blithering sexual zombie who would never dare to stray from your side.<\/p>\n

I’m giving it to you straight, because it\u2019s time for you to understand the real reasons why you do things and make some life-changing decisions. It is simply not your right to ask this man or any other to change<\/a><\/strong>. If you\u2019re going to be a reasonable, responsible adult then you either accept the people in your life for who they are or you keep them out of it. I advise you to do some deep soul searching and get a handle on your true motivations. Because if you really want to maintain your attitude toward sex and monogamy, then you\u2019re going to have to find men who share that belief and leave the men who don\u2019t alone. It will save you a lot of heartache\u2026 and everyone else a great deal of needless turmoil.<\/p>\n

Liam<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n

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Not quite sure if you should date them or not?<\/span>\u00a0Talk to a psychic and find out. Call 1.800.573.4830<\/span> or choose your psychic now. <\/a><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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