{"id":5886744,"date":"2012-02-13T00:00:30","date_gmt":"2012-02-13T08:00:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/?p=5886744"},"modified":"2014-01-31T08:12:11","modified_gmt":"2014-01-31T16:12:11","slug":"stop-drinking-the-koolaid","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/mind-body-spirit\/stop-drinking-the-koolaid.html","title":{"rendered":"Stop Drinking the Kool-Aid"},"content":{"rendered":"<h4>Be Your Own Leader and Make Your Own Flavor<\/h4>\n<p>When I say, \u201cStop drinking the Kool-Aid,\u201d I don\u2019t mean the colorful, fruity-flavored stuff you shared with your childhood friends. I mean the stuff you get into with your friends when you\u2019re older. From adolescence to adulthood many of us find ourselves hanging out in groups or with a certain bunch of friends <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/2011\/04\/the-male-mind-what-is-he-thinking.html\">who are of like minds<\/a><\/strong>. They can be our peers or even people we look up to and wish to emulate.<\/p>\n<p><strong>The Group Mentality<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Groups, big and small, can have unwritten codes of conduct, rules about how to act, who to like, how to dress, who to talk to, and so on. It\u2019s the Kool-Aid that has you thinking like the group, rather than freely expressing your individuality. For instance, high school can be a time when you\u2019re getting your first real taste of the Kool-Aid by belonging to a clique, such as the jocks, the geeks, the socialites, or the \u201cHeathers,\u201d the mean girls of cult classic fame who ruled their school through intimidation. You realize early on that groups can be far more influential than individuals. But the Kool-Aid can come from any <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/2011\/05\/how-planets-influence-your-job.html\">group or ultra-influential person<\/a><\/strong> who shapes our actions at any time in our lives.<!--more--><\/p>\n<p>Having that group to rely on can be comforting at times and frustrating at others, just like any family. And not everyone thrives in a group environment. Certainly, if you are an individual-type person, you will have little patience for the group mentality, especially a clique like the \u201cHeathers.\u201d If you find yourself moving away from the Kool-Aid, if you\u2019ve grown tired of the flavor of the month, maybe it\u2019s time to make your own Kool-Aid.<\/p>\n<p>You can\u2019t fully know who you are and all you that you can be if you live your life through others. Being part of other people\u2019s dramas leaves you little time to deal with self. You have to find your own path in life, something that is completely your own. <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/2010\/04\/10-ways-to-gain-confidence.html\/\">Build your confidence<\/a><\/strong> and gain your independence. When it calls to you, begging to be explored, you will begin to experience some big changes. Sometimes it\u2019s not so easy, but very few things in life that are worth it ever are.<\/p>\n<h4><em>&#8220;Make note of your intuitive responses and see how often they bear true. With time, you will come to understand that that still, inner voice can be trusted.&#8221; \u2013 <a href=\"http:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/c\/c.aspx?lid=114429&amp;utm_source=blog_articles_psychic_quote&amp;utm_medium=blog_articles&amp;utm_campaign=quote-by-aurora-5365-article-stop-drinking-the-koolaid-v5step3\">Psychic Aurora ext. 5365<\/a><\/em><\/h4>\n<p><strong>Be Your Own Leader<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>It takes a personal leap of faith to separate from the all-powerful Kool-Aid punchbowl. You may at times feel alone or even alienated during this transition, but don\u2019t let feelings of doubt deter you. Remind yourself to consistently tap into that initial spark of inspiration. The motivation to be an individual gets continually stronger and the need to be identified as part of the group will wane. When you stop drinking the group Kool-Aid and learn how to make your own, you can be confident that your soul is expanding. Be guided by spirit. Don\u2019t be afraid. Have confidence and be your own leader. Make your own Kool-Aid and savor the flavor.<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: 12px\"><strong><a title=\"$1 per minute \" href=\"http:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/c\/c.aspx?lid=113977&amp;utm_source=NC_offer_footer&amp;utm_medium=NC_offer_footer&amp;utm_campaign=new_customer_text_offer_blog_v5step1\">Exclusive offer: New customers can speak to a psychic for ONLY\u00a0$1 per minute. Select your psychic\u00a0advisor\u00a0here<\/a>.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<div style=\"border-top: 1px dotted #c9d9d9;border-bottom: 1px dotted #c9d9d9;margin: 10px 0px;padding: 10px 4px;font-weight: bold\"><span style=\"font-weight: 800\">Learn to have more faith in your own individuality.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: bold\"> Talk to a psychic and find out how!\u00a0<!-- ADD COPY ABOVE -->Call <span style=\"color: #ff6600\">1.800.573.4830<\/span> or <span style=\"color: #0000ff\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/c\/c.aspx?lid=113594&amp;utm_source=blogboxcodetest1&amp;utm_medium=blogboxcode&amp;utm_campaign=boxcode-control\">choose your psychic now. <\/a><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Groups can have unwritten codes of conduct, such as how to act. 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