{"id":5881223,"date":"2011-11-19T17:00:05","date_gmt":"2011-11-20T01:00:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/?p=5881223"},"modified":"2011-11-08T13:40:01","modified_gmt":"2011-11-08T21:40:01","slug":"red-responds-end-your-affair","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/psychic-questions\/red-responds-end-your-affair.html","title":{"rendered":"Red Responds: End Your Affair"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Sally from\u00a0Albuquerque asks:<\/p>\n<p><em>I have been in an extramarital\u00a0relationship\u00a0for six years, and <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/2011\/07\/30-break-up-signs.html\">I want to end it<\/a><\/strong>. What do I say? He is manipulative, and, as a Leo, will want to fix the situation. Do I owe him an explanation, if he only wants to argue with me about my reasons?<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"http:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/psychics\/9226\/Red.aspx\">Psychic Red ext. 9226<\/a> Responds:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><\/strong>Dear Sally,<\/p>\n<p>Your soon-to-be-ex lover can be quite difficult, but that doesn\u2019t mean you can\u2019t handle it. You just need to prepare yourself to handle things a little differently. Every time you allow him to draw you into a discussion or argument, you are surrendering your power and wobbling in your convictions. This is very problematic, not to mention stressful.<!--more--><\/p>\n<p>You can try answering his questions and inquisition sessions in five words or less, in such a manner that you aren\u2019t opening yourself up for further debate or additional defenses. Not always an easy thing to do with your combined personalities, because you like to over-explain, and he likes to twist your words and send them back to you. But, this really is your best shot at creating the mature, adult parting of ways that you are striving for.<\/p>\n<p>Realistically, you really don\u2019t owe him any explanations. \u201cI can\u2019t be with you,\u201d pretty much covers it. \u201cI don\u2019t want this anymore,\u201d is a good follow up. But, basically, you are going to have to be strong and control the situation. Every time you debate, you let him into your head, and you aren\u2019t able to <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/2009\/02\/break-up-to-breakthrough.html\">break free<\/a><\/strong>. Sometimes, it\u2019s not always possible to be nice and get your point across.<\/p>\n<p>Your lover isn\u2019t exactly thrilled with the \u201cnew you.\u201d It\u2019s okay, he doesn\u2019t have to be, especially since you desire to make him a part of your past rather than your future. He only has the control over you that you give him, so quit giving it to him. Stay strong, and eventually he will get the message, lick his wounds and go away.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes, the less said, the better. But, the bottom line is, one way or the other, you are going to part ways with him. You are finally seeing who he truly is \u2013 which isn\u2019t the man he originally presented to be. So, even though he will not willingly set you free, you will cut the ties and bring this relationship to an end so that you can move forward in your \u201creal\u201d life.<\/p>\n<p>Good luck to you!<\/p>\n<p>Brightest Blessings,<\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"http:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/psychics\/9226\/Red.aspx\">Red<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><em>Do you have a question for Red? <a href=\"http:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/red_responds.aspx\" target=\"_self\">Ask Red your question now.<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: 12px\"><strong><a title=\"$1 per minute \" href=\"http:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/c\/c.aspx?lid=112937&amp;utm_source=NC_offer_footer&amp;utm_medium=NC_offer_footer&amp;utm_campaign=new_customer_text_offer_blog\">Exclusive offer: New customers can speak to a psychic for ONLY\u00a0$1 per minute. Select your psychic\u00a0advisor\u00a0here<\/a>.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<div style=\"border-top: 1px dotted #c9d9d9;border-bottom: 1px dotted #c9d9d9;margin: 10px 0px;padding: 10px 4px;font-weight: bold\"><strong>Who is <em>your <\/em>true love?<\/strong> Talk to a psychic and find out. <!-- ADD COPY ABOVE -->Call <span style=\"font-size: 16px;color: #d33d26\">1.800.573.4830<\/span> or <a href=\"http:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/newcustomer\/v4\/pickyourpsychic-step1?lid=112769&amp;utm_source=blogboxcodetest1&amp;utm_medium=blogboxcode&amp;utm_campaign=test1\">choose your psychic now. <\/a><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Prepare yourself with psychic help to end your affair and get through your ex-lover&#8217;s reaction and retaliation. 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