{"id":5881221,"date":"2011-11-10T17:00:02","date_gmt":"2011-11-11T01:00:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/?p=5881221"},"modified":"2011-10-27T16:31:41","modified_gmt":"2011-10-27T23:31:41","slug":"red-responds-why-love-is-not-enough","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/psychic-questions\/red-responds-why-love-is-not-enough.html","title":{"rendered":"Red Responds: Why Love Is Not Enough"},"content":{"rendered":"

Love Him As Is or Leave Him?<\/strong><\/h4>\n

Aura from\u00a0San Diego asks:<\/p>\n

I’m struggling with whether to stay in a relationship with a childhood friend<\/a><\/strong>\/teenage sweetheart that I reconnected with a few years ago. His marriage and career ended. He lives where we grew up (the East coast), and I have lived on the West coast for 28 years now. We’ve seen each other, back and forth. He drinks too much beer everyday. He still seems to be recuperating from his past, and he believes I’m it. I love him and I care. However, I’ve been very unhappy with a lot of his behavior in the past two years. It sort of seems like a no brainer to leave. For me, it’s not so easy because of our history. He doesn’t seem to worry about us. Please share any insight you may have. Thanks!<\/em><\/p>\n

Psychic Red ext. 9226<\/a> Responds:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Dear Aura,<\/p>\n

You are very good person. You have to know that. But, you also have to accept that you cannot \u201csave\u201d someone who isn\u2019t looking to better themselves. Even though there is a love bond that shows up between your boyfriend and yourself, sometimes, love just isn\u2019t enough.<\/p>\n

Your relationship with this man presents as severely imbalanced<\/a><\/strong>, and the person that it is hurting is you. Even though you do love him, the past couple of years have taken it\u2019s toll on the \u201cin love\u201d with him aspect. You’re not getting what you’re asking for, which is causing you to hide behind history and justifications to make things \u201cokay,” so you can hold on just a little longer. This pattern will continue as long as you permit it to.<\/p>\n

You boyfriend doesn\u2019t outwardly worry about the two of you, but he does worry. However, he is a little too busy feeling sorry for himself and his own situations to really share that with you. He believes that you will continue to be there for him, so he doesn\u2019t share that side of his insecurities with you. You are part mother, part girlfriend. That\u2019s a lot of pressure!<\/p>\n

I can\u2019t tell you what to do, but I can tell you that things aren\u2019t going to change until you change them. It\u2019s never easy to break away from someone you love, but sometimes you have to. I can tell you that this is not the man you will marry, nor is the one you will grow old with. At least not this version of him. The best you can hope for is that if you step back, he will see the light and pick himself up. Unless and until that happens, you are caught in the circle and cycles of an imbalanced relationship, that has really ceased to work for you.<\/p>\n

For the most part, Aura, you are alone. Whether you choose to be alone with him, or without him, is ultimately up to you. But, when you\u2019re hurting yourself to keep from hurting another (and you have been), the writing is pretty much on the wall. And, because your boyfriend really isn\u2019t looking at the bigger picture, or seriously trying to correct or improve the areas of this relationship that have been discussed as troubling to you\u2014what you see is really what you get. If you\u2019re accepting of that, let your loyalty lead. But if you want to be true to yourself and your needs, you know what you have to do. While it won\u2019t be easy, it also won\u2019t be as hard as you fear. There is no right or wrong here, only what is right for you.<\/p>\n

I hope this helps.<\/p>\n

Brightest Blessings,<\/p>\n

Red<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

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