{"id":5880625,"date":"2011-11-18T17:00:09","date_gmt":"2011-11-19T01:00:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/?p=5880625"},"modified":"2011-11-08T15:50:57","modified_gmt":"2011-11-08T23:50:57","slug":"how-to-have-a-compassionate-thanksgiving","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/mind-body-spirit\/how-to-have-a-compassionate-thanksgiving.html","title":{"rendered":"Avoid Family Drama on Thanksgiving"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-weight: bold\">How Not to Hit Your Sister Over the Head With the Fire Truck<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Family challenges are truly some of the most <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/2011\/04\/spiritual-insights-uncover-your-spiritual-connections.html\">difficult spiritual tests<\/a><\/strong>, as they last your whole life, yet these relationships tend to be the ones that can bring the most joy\u2026 or heartbreak. If we see life as a school, and each relationship, job, or social situation, as a particular \u201cclass,\u201d we shift our perspective. This can give you the \u201cspace\u201d to look at it without the dramatic history\u2026 and this tool can help you to curb your own reactions, disappointments, or even anger that may come up during \u201cA Family Thanksgiving.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>1. Perception<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Sit down and list the potential challenges for the upcoming celebration, whether those are individual relationships, the family dynamics, or smaller issues; about food, or how you \u201cdo\u201d or \u201cdon\u2019t do\u201d something. No matter what form that challenge would take, add it to the list. Now step outside of the history that creates that drama, look at the situation as an outsider, and try to see why the people involved choose to hold on to that behavior or attitude? It usually boils down to their limitations. I love the saying; \u201cthere is no such thing as rejection, only other people\u2019s limitations\u201d it is true. If you can let go of the need to change the situation or that person, and accept that they are indeed limited in their ability to control that action, <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/2010\/05\/drama-kings-and-strong-women.html\/\">suddenly the drama balloon is deflated!<\/a><\/strong><!--more--><\/p>\n<p><strong>2. Compassion<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>It is so easy to judge another, especially if they are sitting in judgment of you! However, if you can find the compassion to try to understand what has happened to that person that could have caused them to be \u201climited\u201d in their understanding, you can start to feel less irritation, and more compassion. To accept \u201cwhy\u201d they do or say these things does not lessen you. To accept them \u201cas they are\u201d does not mean you agree with what they say or do. To let them unveil their limitation in their words or deeds, does not mean they are \u201cright.\u201d It just means you are strong and confident enough to let them have their drama without buying a ticket to ride in it!<\/p>\n<p><strong>3. Being Right<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>It is a human drive to speak <em>our<\/em> opinions, <em>our<\/em> feelings, and to move to \u201ccorrect\u201d what we see as \u201cwrong,\u201d yet if we take away the concept of \u201cright and wrong\u201d (which is rarely an absolute truth) that same action is just a \u201cjoining in\u201d to the drama. It escalates the negative energy, and infects all who hear or see it with the heaviness of it. I have a saying, \u201cDo you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?\u201d It is its own reward to simply be free of a \u201creaction\u201d to negative actions or words.<\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/2011\/08\/a-guide-to-compassionate-living.html\">By being compassionate<\/a><\/strong>, using a more spiritual perspective, we can find much more joy in our family gatherings, and set a much healthier example! You could change the future of your family gatherings one small quiet moment, by moment.<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: 12px\"><strong><a title=\"$1 per minute \" href=\"http:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/c\/c.aspx?lid=112937&amp;utm_source=NC_offer_footer&amp;utm_medium=NC_offer_footer&amp;utm_campaign=new_customer_text_offer_blog\">Exclusive offer: New customers can speak to a psychic for ONLY\u00a0$1 per minute. 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