We fight most of the time, because we have to be right, we have to convince others of us being right, and we have to win! So how does one overcome ego in a society that has no losers and only winners? It\u2019s a tough nut to crack. In order to stop fighting for being right<\/a><\/strong>, we\u2019d have to lose our attachment to outcome. But wouldn\u2019t that mean that we have to lose our passion and engagement? How can we convince people or sell them on our point if we don\u2019t have an attachment to convincing them of anything?<\/p>\n The fact is that my truth is not necessarily another person\u2019s truth, and vice versa. Sure, I believe there are universal truths<\/a><\/strong>, but not to bend them is my choice and sometimes not the choice of others.<\/p>\n When someone is really convinced of something they are rarely willing to change their mind, no matter how compelling the argument may be. If the belief is a deep rooted one, not even evidence of the contrary changes the opinion. And how is that surprising? Almost all religions work by that very principle. People don\u2019t necessarily believe in what is true, but in what or whom they believe to be right; and sometimes there is a huge gap between the two.<\/p>\n I always felt that healthy debate and an open mind are the best traits to have. Sometimes I would get sucked into being \u201chuman\u201d by starting to argue; especially when I felt that my very being or core were either attacked or undermined. However, I did find that the older I get, the less I feel a need to \u201cdefend\u201d myself. Sure, there are still times where certain remarks or topics trigger a response, but overall, I try to be conscious of my need to argue about something. Because even if I deeply believe in a cause or thing, it doesn\u2019t mean I have to argue about it. I can choose to walk away or debate. I am not responsible for other people\u2019s thoughts, emotions, shortcomings, or reactions. However, I try to be mindful of them!<\/p>\n “Whatever it is that is causing you stress, most likely it is there to teach you a lesson. Sometimes the truth stings a bit.” – Psychic William ext. 5131<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n I used to fight a lot of empty and utterly useless battles. I would come to the aid of someone who didn\u2019t want to be helped. I would argue because the fundamental \u201cwrongness\u201d of something would drive me insane. I needed to fight the good fight and speak up for everything and everyone I felt was being wronged. Then I learned about the human race at large and found that no argument, evidence, or proof changed a thing. In the end, most people will run from face-to-face confrontation, follow blindly and cowardly, yet angrily, hide from what might be truth but causes discomfort, or god forbid, work on their part. People generally follow the path of least resistance, even if that path is destructive to themselves or others.<\/p>\n Yes, there are certain things that I believe are absolutely crucial to fight for, especially if I can help or aid another or many. An example would be speaking up about a bully, or calling help for someone who is getting robbed.<\/p>\n In my personal life I try to eliminate the fighting and the drama that comes with it, by simply walking away from those who add those elements. I don\u2019t need to convince them of my truth, I don\u2019t need to launch any hate campaigns or even speak up. Sometimes one has to understand that it is OK to have different values, but that setting boundaries means that I am not obligated to interact with those who cannot share or respect mine.<\/p>\n Fighting doesn\u2019t change a thing and it doesn\u2019t change minds. The only thing that has potential to change the minds of others is leading by example<\/a><\/strong>. Sometimes others get inspired enough to follow the example and other times they do not. But in the end, it’s up to each and every one of us to be the person we set out to be and aspire to be, regardless if others follow.<\/p>\n “Once the truth is out in the open, we can direct our efforts towards addressing that specific problem or problems and creating a solution.” – Psychic Justine ext. 5402<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n