{"id":5879029,"date":"2011-09-29T05:00:22","date_gmt":"2011-09-29T12:00:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/?p=5879029"},"modified":"2011-09-30T15:38:24","modified_gmt":"2011-09-30T22:38:24","slug":"three-easy-steps-to-end-those-bad-habits-forever","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/mind-body-spirit\/three-easy-steps-to-end-those-bad-habits-forever.html","title":{"rendered":"3 Easy Steps to End Those Bad Habits Forever!"},"content":{"rendered":"

Of course I can stop my bad habits<\/a><\/strong>. I quit smoking\u2026 dozens of times every day!<\/p>\n

Yes, it\u2019s a bad joke. For many people who are willing to talk about their innumerable failed attempts to break their bad habits, it\u2019s either bad jokes or tears.<\/p>\n

\u201cDon\u2019t you know you shouldn\u2019t __________________?\u201d (Fill in the blank with your bad habit of choice: smoking, eating bad foods, biting nails<\/a><\/strong>, not exercising, talking on the phone while driving, etc.)<\/p>\n

\u201cOf course I know I shouldn\u2019t. Don\u2019t you think I would if I could? Rubbing my face in it makes it all the worse. And the worse I feel the more I do it.\u201d<\/p>\n

I\u2019m here to let you know that you\u2014YES, YOU READING THIS\u2014can absolutely break any bad habit. All you have to do is know how. The solution is surprisingly simple.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s say you have onychophagia (compulsive nail biting). As my mother used to say, \u201cYou bit your nails down to your elbows.\u201d You focus on stopping:<\/p>\n

\u201cI will not bite my nails. I will not bite my nails!\u201d<\/p>\n

And what happens? You end up giving yourself a reason that it\u2019s okay to bite them or, in a moment when you\u2019re focusing on something else, you find your fingertips in your mouth. That\u2019s what often happens with any habit you wish to break.<\/p>\n

But why?<\/p>\n

To understand why you\u2019ve failed, you have to look at what you\u2019re doing. Look at what you\u2019re focusing on. What is it you will not bite? MY NAILS. MY NAILS. MY NAILS. The more you focus on it the more your attention is on your nails. Eventually, your actions will to return you to your nails and biting them. After all, that is the focus of your attention.<\/p>\n

So, step one<\/strong> is this:<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not enough to stop doing something,\u00a0you have to replace it with something else.<\/em><\/p>\n

Further, that \u201csomething else\u201d needs to be appropriate. If you try to replace biting your nails with running around the block you\u2019re not going to succeed because you can\u2019t do your running as easily and as unconsciously as you can when biting your nails. A good replacement behavior might be reading a page from a book or magazine, or getting a drink of water.<\/p>\n

Step two<\/strong>:<\/p>\n

As long as you don\u2019t give up you haven\u2019t failed.<\/em><\/p>\n

I have a friend who is a vegetarian. She went to a restaurant and had a \u201cvegetarian\u201d bean burrito. She found out later, however, that the restaurant had lied about the food. They seasoned it with meat.<\/p>\n

Does that mean she ceased being a vegetarian? Not at all! It meant that she was a vegetarian who accidentally had some meat. If she gives up, saying \u201cWell, I had meat so I\u2019m not a vegetarian any longer\u201d and eats a steak, if she gives up, then she is no longer a vegetarian. But if she stops going to that restaurant and continues as a vegetarian, she remains a vegetarian.<\/p>\n

Only when you give up do you fail. If you take the information from what happened (the food had meat) and then act on that information (don\u2019t go there again), you are a success.<\/p>\n

So if you go back to your old habit, it\u2019s only a failure if you give up. If you learn why you failed and act to prevent that from happening again, you will succeed.<\/p>\n

The third step<\/strong> is for you to:<\/p>\n

Know it won\u2019t be like this forever.<\/em><\/p>\n

Experts in habit change believe it takes 21 days, just three weeks, to change an unwanted habit for a desired habit. That\u2019s all! That bad habit may have been with you for 21 years or more and you can end it forever in just 21 days. Yes, those 21 continuous days may be a challenge, so reward yourself after 7, 14, and 21 days. Buy some clothes. See a movie. Try something new and fun<\/a><\/strong>. Be kind to yourself. Don\u2019t hate yourself for what you don\u2019t like; love yourself for everything that\u2019s great about you.<\/p>\n

What bad habit will you<\/em> replace?<\/p>\n

Donald Michael Kraig graduated from UCLA with a degree in philosophy, and has become a certified hypnotherapist and Master NLP practitioner. His book, <\/em>Modern Magick, is the most popular step-by-step course in real magick ever published.<\/em><\/p>\n

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What’s ahead for your <\/em>life path?<\/strong> Try a psychic reading. Call 1.800.573.4830<\/span> or choose your psychic now. <\/a><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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