{"id":5878976,"date":"2011-09-29T05:00:11","date_gmt":"2011-09-29T12:00:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/?p=5878976"},"modified":"2016-05-31T12:22:34","modified_gmt":"2016-05-31T19:22:34","slug":"when-you-are-the-natural-disaster","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/mind-body-spirit\/when-you-are-the-natural-disaster.html","title":{"rendered":"When You Are the Natural Disaster"},"content":{"rendered":"

Self Sabotage: Things We Do That Hold Us Back<\/h4>\n

We all anticipate the day that our ship comes in, ready to board that vessel of success<\/a><\/strong>. We all want to be happy and are willing to grab the opportunity to achieve our dreams when it arrives, right? Well, maybe not.<\/p>\n

In reality, we sometimes create excuses to avoid opportunities. Or we quit a task just before the payoff. We start finding faults with our partner when the relationship is on the verge of serious commitment<\/a><\/strong>. We turn down promotions at work. We decide not to take the advanced level class that our professors suggest. We get sick on the day of an interview for a job that pays substantially more. We decide that we can\u2019t really afford the mortgage or rent for a better home.<\/p>\n

Sound familiar? Don\u2019t worry, you\u2019re not alone. Even way back in Biblical times, Jonah tried to escape from God\u2019s call to a higher mission. But you don\u2019t have to spend three days in a whale\u2019s belly to figure out why you keep sabotaging your own chances for happiness.<\/p>\n

Fear of Success<\/strong><\/p>\n

Behind your self-sabotaging could be a fear of being rejected if you outshine others. The concept of fearing success was studied in the 1960s by researchers who asked college men to write a story beginning with: \u201cAfter first term finals, John finds himself at the top of his medical school class.\u201d The male students typically wrote stories about how dedicated and conscientious John was. They said John continued working hard and eventually graduated at the top of his class.<\/p>\n

But when college women were asked to write stories about \u201cAnne\u201d finding herself at the top of her medical school class, the responses drastically differed. The female stories revolved around social rejection, describing Anne as an \u201cacne-faced book worm\u201d without any friends. One story said that \u201cAnne will finally have a nervous breakdown, quit medical school, and marry a successful doctor.\u201d Notice how Anne would marry a doctor, not become one herself!<\/p>\n

Amazingly, almost all of the women in the study who showed fear of success when they were younger later got pregnant when they were on the verge of career advancement or when their achievements threatened to pass their husband\u2019s success.<\/p>\n

Similarly, other research has shown that people who grow up in a lower socioeconomic class sabotage their opportunities to rise to a higher level in society because they do not want to risk losing their family and old friends. The prospect of their friends becoming jealous and family members becoming resentful can be so powerful that they turn their backs on opportunities that others classify as \u201cselling out.\u201d<\/p>\n

Moving Beyond Our Comfort Zone<\/strong><\/p>\n

You already know that self-sabotage does not make sense on a logical level, so to beat the habit you must figure out what emotion, most likely a fear, is behind your behavior. Then each day, work on moving out of your level of comfort\u2014taking baby steps at first if necessary\u2014to test if your fear is valid. You might be surprised to learn that people will support you, not reject you. Eventually, when your ship comes in, you can confidently board and know that those on the dock bidding you \u201cbon voyage\u201d will still love and accept you as you journey toward reaching your full potential<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

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