{"id":5878242,"date":"2011-09-24T05:00:21","date_gmt":"2011-09-24T12:00:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/?p=5878242"},"modified":"2016-05-03T14:49:19","modified_gmt":"2016-05-03T21:49:19","slug":"red-responds-why-are-you-still-attracted-to-your-ex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/psychic-questions\/red-responds-why-are-you-still-attracted-to-your-ex.html","title":{"rendered":"Red Responds: Why Are You Still Attracted to Your Ex?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Becky from Garlands asks:<\/p>\n

Why am I still so\u00a0<\/em>attracted to my ex-husband<\/a><\/strong>?<\/em><\/p>\n

Psychic Red ext. 9226<\/a> Responds:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Dear Becky,<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t always make sense when you try and break down why you’re attracted to someone, and trying to understand it certainly doesn\u2019t make it any easier to purge yourself of thoughts and feelings toward someone you ultimate accept as being part of your past.<\/p>\n

A large chunk of the attraction toward your ex<\/a><\/strong> that you struggle with has to do with the karmic bonds that still show up between the two of you. Even though there is still unfinished business there, it doesn\u2019t appear as if this is the lifetime in which the two of you will balance the scales and wipe the slate clean.<\/p>\n

Your head and your heart ultimate agree that your ex really isn\u2019t any good for you, especially when you look at the present or toward the future. But, that doesn\u2019t mean he\u2019s completely out of your system, either. There is some powerful history between you two, and in some aspects, you are still fond of and drawn in by what he represents. Also, and excuse me if I\u2019m getting to personal, but in memory and in fantasy\u2014there\u2019s still a lot of heat! This certainly will cause you to wonder (anyone with a heartbeat would!) if the sparks that remain are somehow intended to smolder or reignite into something more. As you know, and ultimately accept\u2014your ex is your ex, and that isn\u2019t going to change.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not going to give you the speech about how everything ultimately works out for the best, and how, in time, your feelings and fantasies regarding your ex will dissipate and fade away<\/a><\/strong>. You already know this, and you know it to be true. But, it\u2019s not always that simple. There is still a bond and a karmetic connection that remains. It won\u2019t matter how much time passes, or how happy you are with your life and your partner, you will still have those moments when thoughts and feelings for your ex creep back in and create confusion in your head, heart and world. During these times, there is little else for you to do but your best to work through it.<\/p>\n

Your ex-husband will be in-and-out of your life, for the rest of your life. There is a lot of unfinished business between the two of you that helps to keep the connection burning and alive, but each of you is destined to walk down separate paths. Keep this in mind, because over the next several decades there will be opportunities for the two of you to\u2026 express some physical urges. But, each opportunity presents as limiting in the relationship sense, and one or the other of you will not be able or willing to invest in the relationship, or able to stay.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, your attraction toward him will ebb and flow. I wish I could tell you that it was going to go away or lead somewhere, but the truth is this is an attraction that will leave you hurting or empty if you were to try and make things into something more.<\/p>\n

I wish I had better news for you.<\/p>\n

Brightest Blessings,<\/p>\n

Red<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Do you have a question for Red? Ask Red your question now.<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Maybe it’s time to let go and move on with your life. Learn tools and knowledge to help you move forward with a reading from an expert love psychic. Call 1.800.573.4830<\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/span> or select your love psychic now. <\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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