{"id":5873489,"date":"2011-07-28T05:00:19","date_gmt":"2011-07-28T12:00:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/?p=5873489"},"modified":"2011-05-24T16:18:20","modified_gmt":"2011-05-24T23:18:20","slug":"the-imperfection-of-perfectionism","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/mind-body-spirit\/the-imperfection-of-perfectionism.html","title":{"rendered":"The Imperfection of Perfectionism"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>There\u2019s nothing wrong with wanting to do your best, whether it\u2019s a project at your job or a game of tennis with friends. It feels good to accomplish a goal, and often other people benefit from your efforts, too.<\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/2009\/10\/how-to-reverse-a-sexless-marriage.html\/\">Problems creep into our lives<\/a><\/strong> when we feel that everything we do must meet strict, often self-imposed, standards. Behind the compulsion to always perform perfectly is fear\u2014fear of not being accepted or loved by others if we fail. For some people, <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/2010\/12\/are-you-a-sex-addict.html\/\">the addictive compulsion is to achieve<\/a><\/strong> a perfect weight or meet a physical beauty standard. But the underlying factor is the same: a belief that we are not good enough.<!--more--><\/p>\n<p><strong>Procrastination<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>One of the results of perfectionism is procrastination. For example, high-achieving students sometimes put off their school projects until the last minute, or miss the deadline altogether, because they are afraid if they produce inferior work, their parents or teachers will become angry and withdraw their love and acceptance. The risk of disapproval paralyzes them.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Expectation<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Another problem with perfectionism is that perfectionists can start expecting other people to be perfect, too. These perfectionists might miss out on fun and fulfilling relationships with others because they are always finding fault with others.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dissatisfaction<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>When perfectionists fail to meet their own standards, their alleged failure is followed by feelings of dissatisfaction and self-criticism. These feelings permeate all aspects of their lives, eroding relationships and their chances at achieving any tasks that require a sense of self-competence. In general, perfectionists can simply be chronically unhappy people.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Permission<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/2009\/07\/perfectionism.html\/\">Perfectionism is habitual thinking<\/a><\/strong>, and the way to break the habit is to change your thinking patterns. Each day, give yourself permission to make three mistakes or to have three physical faults. Whatever area your perfectionism affects, allow yourself to \u201cfail\u201d in that area three times a day. By relaxing your standards and realizing that people will still like you when you are not perfect, you can conquer your fear and be happy.<\/p>\n<div style=\"border-top: 1px dotted #c9d9d9;border-bottom: 1px dotted #c9d9d9;margin: 10px 0px;padding: 10px 4px;font-weight: bold\"><strong>What&#8217;s ahead for <em>your <\/em>life path?<\/strong> Try a psychic reading. <!-- ADD COPY ABOVE -->Call <span style=\"font-size: 16px;color: #d33d26\">1.800.573.4830<\/span> or <a href=\"http:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/c\/c.aspx?lid=110524\">choose your psychic now. <\/a><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What&#8217;s the best way to achieve perfection? Hint: There isn&#8217;t one. Don&#8217;t you think it&#8217;s time to stop driving yourself to exhaustion trying to achieve an impossible ideal, and learn to embrace what you have, and what&#8217;s right in front of you already?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":6533,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[40],"tags":[2641,7,31248,1434,2232,7362,74],"cp_author":[],"class_list":["post-5873489","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-mind-body-spirit","tag-addiction","tag-astrology","tag-compulsion","tag-horoscope","tag-perfectionism","tag-spirituality-religion","tag-tarot"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v26.4 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>The Imperfection of Perfectionism | California Psychics<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"What&#039;s the best way to achieve perfection? 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