{"id":5872837,"date":"2011-05-16T05:00:29","date_gmt":"2011-05-16T12:00:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/?p=5872837"},"modified":"2011-04-19T14:50:42","modified_gmt":"2011-04-19T21:50:42","slug":"are-your-divorced-friends-hurting-your-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/love-relationships\/are-your-divorced-friends-hurting-your-marriage.html","title":{"rendered":"Are Your Divorced Friends Hurting Your Marriage?"},"content":{"rendered":"<h4>Watch Out for Your Friends&#8217; Influences<\/h4>\n<p>It pays to be conscious of the people you surround yourself with in your life because your friendships can have a huge effect on your perspective, attitude, and lifestyle. Even if your <a href=\"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/2010\/04\/friendship-divorce.html\/\"><strong>friends think they\u2019re doing you a service<\/strong><\/a> with their endless insights and commentary, the reality is that their life experiences will always be different than yours, and their perspective may not be beneficial to you. Let\u2019s look at how divorced friends\u2019 consistent input\u2014good intentions aside\u2014could cause more harm than good in your relationship.<\/p>\n<p><strong>The Single Lifestyle<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s important to realize that while there are pluses and minuses to being single, you may have an unattached <a href=\"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/2011\/02\/6-signs-the-single-life-should-be-left-behind.html\/\"><strong>friend or two who constantly roots for the single life<\/strong><\/a>. This will be damaging to you, though, if they spend as much time insulting the married life as they do commending the single. As long as your friend respects your relationship, and your choice to be with your partner, their consistent homage to the unattached lifestyle can be just another way to share stories from different perspectives and experiences.<!--more--><\/p>\n<p><strong>The Jaded View<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Unfortunately, too many relationships and marriages end badly, which can leave divorcees feeling jaded. This will wear on you if others feel the need to consistently point out all the faults in, say, your relationship. Confiding in friends can be a very gratifying part of your friendship, but beware of their friendly &#8220;advice.&#8221; If your disclosures about your relationship problems are returned with comments such as &#8220;you should find someone who\u2019s a better match,&#8221; or &#8220;there\u2019s plenty of fish in the sea,&#8221; you may want to keep their perspective in mind when talking about your relationship. It\u2019s up to you to decide whether your relationship is worth the work. There are ways to show your appreciation for their caring advice without needing to live by it.<\/p>\n<p><strong>The Disenchanted Saboteur<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>We all hope for friends who support us wholeheartedly and only wish the best for us. Unfortunately, sometimes a friend\u2019s jealousy can sabotage your other relationships. Whether out of a need to be the number one person in your life, or because he or she just can\u2019t stand to see others in a happy relationship, their cynical attitude and behavior can chip away at your relationship bliss. This type of friendship is caustic to you and your relationship, so if you find yourself in this precarious position with your &#8220;friend,&#8221; you may want to look into making a new one.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Seek Out Relationship Support<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>There are many people, and potential friends, who are able to be supportive about your relationship, as long as it\u2019s healthy. You choose the people you bring into your life, so why waste time on friendships that degrade your relationship when you can have <a href=\"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/2010\/03\/friendship-contracts.html\/\"><strong>more positive friendships that support your happiness<\/strong><\/a> and your choice to be in a marriage that, ultimately, is the best choice for you.<\/p>\n<div style=\"border-top: 1px dotted #c9d9d9;border-bottom: 1px dotted #c9d9d9;margin: 10px 0px;padding: 10px 4px;font-weight: bold\"><strong>What&#8217;s ahead for <em>your <\/em>love life?<\/strong> Try a psychic reading. <!-- ADD COPY ABOVE -->Call <span style=\"font-size: 16px;color: #d33d26\">1.800.573.4830<\/span> or <a href=\"http:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/c\/c.aspx?lid=110524\">choose your psychic now. <\/a><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Sometimes our friends&#8217; opinions may actually do more harm than good, especially if they&#8217;ve had negative experiences in relationships or marriage. 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