{"id":5872652,"date":"2011-05-28T05:00:45","date_gmt":"2011-05-28T12:00:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/?p=5872652"},"modified":"2016-05-03T14:35:20","modified_gmt":"2016-05-03T21:35:20","slug":"red-responds-how-to-stop-thinking-about-your-ex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/psychic-questions\/red-responds-how-to-stop-thinking-about-your-ex.html","title":{"rendered":"Red Responds: How to Stop Thinking About Your Ex"},"content":{"rendered":"

Christopher from\u00a0Chicago, Illinois asks:<\/p>\n

I walked away from a relationship a year ago because I felt like I was just taken for granted\u2014a third wheel, and I was cheated on. I thought I could manage to move on, but until now I still can’t stop thinking about us and what could have been. Sometimes depression is getting to me so that I neglect the things that are important in my life. What is it between us that makes it hard for me to move on<\/a><\/strong>? Why is it that sometimes I feel as if I made a mistake?<\/em><\/p>\n

Psychic Red ext. 9226<\/a> Responds:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Dear Christopher,<\/p>\n

Getting over someone you loved isn\u2019t an easy thing to do, even when it is the right thing to do. Healing takes time, and more often than not, more time than we\u2019d like. Your karmic contract with your ex<\/a><\/strong> is done. There\u2019s no going back. Do your best to accept this, and direct your energy into trying to move forward.<\/p>\n

There are many past life bonds that show up between you and your ex<\/a><\/strong>, and that certainly can make moving on more challenging. You have a very kind and responsible nature, which isn\u2019t\u00a0really helping you to let go. From what I can see, you tried to make the relationship work, tried to heal your partner, and tirelessly tried to create a safe and joyful relationship. That doesn\u2019t change the monstrous problem that through the course of your relationship you were the only one trying.<\/p>\n

When you find yourself thinking of how things could have been, try to remember how they were. The reality of the past is the truth of this relationship. The two of you ultimately weren\u2019t on the same page, ready to embrace the same levels of love or responsibility. If you had gotten together at a different time in your lives, things may have worked out much more harmoniously. Unfortunately, because you two came together when you did, the \u201cmaybe\u2019s\u201d and \u201cwhat if\u2019s\u201d don\u2019t matter. I know that sounds cold and cruel. While I am sorry to be so blunt, it is very important for your healing to understand that you did all you could do. It was because of some of your partner\u2019s decisions and choices<\/a><\/strong> that you weren\u2019t able to create the relationship that you are ultimately destined to have. You\u2019ll find the love and happiness you so deeply desire, just not with your ex. Your happiness will come in the form of an equal, and your ex was more along the lines of a project. Some karmetic relationships are like that. Even though these types of relationships can be incredibly painful, the lessons they leave us with very often is what helps us to achieve our dreams and highest good in the future.<\/p>\n

I really hope that you will talk with your doctor or a therapist about your depression. While I can feel your pain, I can\u2019t fix it. I just know that you have to, and you have the ability to work through all of this. It just seems as if you could benefit from a little help and outside opinion. You\u2019re a good man, and you are meant to have a good life. Depression can cause more than a few kinks in the chain, so the best way to deal with it is head-on. The sooner you feel better, the brighter the world becomes. And when you are back to your old self (which seems a bit more like being comfortable with your new self), you will begin to attract the people and things to you that not only will make you happy, but also will help you to understand the purpose behind the anguish that you\u2019ve been going through.<\/p>\n

Even though I have complete faith in you, I\u2019m still going to wish you luck.<\/p>\n

Brightest Blessings,<\/p>\n

Red<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Do you have a question for Red? Ask Red your question now.<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Who is your soul mate?<\/strong> Talk to a psychic and find out. Call 1.800.573.4830<\/span> or choose your psychic now. <\/a><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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