{"id":5868444,"date":"2011-03-19T05:00:16","date_gmt":"2011-03-19T13:00:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/?p=5868444"},"modified":"2016-05-03T16:39:54","modified_gmt":"2016-05-03T23:39:54","slug":"sex-qa-true-love-and-your-expectations","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/psychic-questions\/sex-qa-true-love-and-your-expectations.html","title":{"rendered":"Sex Q&A: True Love and Your Expectations"},"content":{"rendered":"

Nikki asks:<\/p>\n

I read the answer you wrote to Sonja<\/a><\/strong>, and you made a comment at the end of the letter that said… When you meet the right one, he will knock you reeling at first glance. Well, that’s my problem, Liam.<\/em><\/p>\n

I have a list of attributes that I want in a man<\/a><\/strong>. You know the things I desire for my divine mate to have. I thought the universe (God) finally gave me something back. This man was everything that I asked for and then some. He showed me chivalry, he made me feel beautiful inside\/outside, and he was more than a lover \u2013\u00a0he was a friend. The attraction I had for him, I can’t explain. The only thing that he was lacking was the height and the finances that I desired him to have. That didn’t even bother me, and coming from me, that’s saying a lot.
\n<\/em><\/p>\n

We spent a lot of time together, cuddling on the couch or just having a long conversation about our past hurts and pains. He’s been through a lot when it comes to bad relationships, and it came out that it’s hard for him to trust! My time with him soon came to an end when he told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship, but he cared about me and didn’t want to lose me \u2013 could we still be friends at least? I can’t be just his friend, so I walked out, and we haven’t spoken since. I really miss him.<\/em><\/p>\n

That really threw me for a loop, because he told me when we first met he was ready for a relationship \u2013\u00a0now all of a sudden he’s not. You’re right, when I first met him,\u00a0I was knocked reeling\u00a0off my feet. What happened to us? Was it something I did? Should I just step back? I could have fallen in love with this man.<\/em><\/p>\n

Liam’s<\/a><\/strong> Response:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Hello, Nikki, and thank you. I\u2019m afraid you misinterpreted what I meant by “being sent reeling.\u201d I was in no way insinuating people are paired by divine mandate or that there is “one” right match for everyone. I was merely trying to illustrate the sudden chemical and biological shock of two people connecting on a visceral level. As I always warn, “true love” is a monster of devious proportion. It will rip out your guts and leave you stunned. But in spite of all that drama, it is still quite explainable and natural.<\/p>\n

In your case, it appears there was trouble from the get go. You, Nikki, are one of those who deems herself entitled. You brought all the New Age drivel\u00a0you’ve\u00a0ever read into this situation full force; making lists, petitioning any passing spirit in the clouds with demands to bring you exactly what you want, right down to height and hat size. Real, deep, lasting connections have nothing to do with what you “want.” In fact, very often we fall for someone who\u00a0doesn’t\u00a0fit our conscious mind\u2019s criteria at all.<\/p>\n

You decided you were ready to find that promised “soul mate,” and this guy fit the bill enough to allow you to give your imagination free reign to conjure all sorts of emotional responses. That doesn\u2019t mean you didn\u2019t really like him. He was quite fond of you, since early on you fit a lot of points on his own list. So who really cares if it\u00a0wasn’t\u00a0“true love?” True love is disruptive and chaotic. Many people get along quite well without it. You two probably would have as well. However, there was a major issue on your fellow\u2019s part. I sense that he wasn\u2019t highly attracted to you on a sexual level and that fact kept bothering him. You seemed more like a good friend. As your feelings for him grew, what he felt for you grew cold.<\/p>\n

Now maybe it\u2019s time to make another list. Not a list of requirements for others to meet, but an honest inventory of your own desires. Do you even have desires anymore? Real ones? Or do you just want some guy with a fat checking account to treat you like a queen and write you poetry? If so, then join the line. It\u2019s a long one.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019d rather feel some real heat in your life, then open yourself to your own inner nature. Start keeping a journal of nothing but feelings. Not goals. Not dreams. Just the real, raw emotions of your daily life. Train your senses with input pursuits like long walks in some fresh air, building clay ovens for no reason and going to jazz clubs. Get rid of all the other “lists”<\/a><\/strong> in your life \u2013 even grocery lists. Try shopping at midnight, and fill your cart with whatever strikes your fancy at that moment. Every day, look in the mirror and smile. When it doesn\u2019t feel faked, you\u2019re making progress. .<\/p>\n

Liam<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n

Do you have a question for Liam? <\/strong>Ask Liam your question now.<\/a><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

What’s ahead for your<\/em> love life?<\/strong> Try a psychic reading. Call 1.800.573.4830<\/span> or choose your psychic now. <\/a><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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