{"id":5867923,"date":"2011-02-09T17:00:39","date_gmt":"2011-02-10T01:00:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/?p=5867923"},"modified":"2011-01-28T12:05:55","modified_gmt":"2011-01-28T20:05:55","slug":"how-to-find-what-youre-looking-for","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/mind-body-spirit\/how-to-find-what-youre-looking-for.html","title":{"rendered":"How to Find What You’re Looking For"},"content":{"rendered":"

I talked to a friend of mine today who has recently started sounding like Eeyore, you know, the depressed little emo donkey from the 100 Acre Woods. I know that that sounds judgmental,<\/a><\/strong> and it probably is, but I mean nothing malicious by it. I\u2019m making an observation about someone who has started to habitually look for the worst in the world.<\/p>\n

\u201cI can\u2019t call him, he probably wouldn\u2019t answer.\u201d
\n\u201cI can\u2019t go out, my car would probably break down.\u201d
\n\u201cI can\u2019t make friends\u2026\u201d
\n\u201cI can\u2019t look for a job\u2026\u201d
\n\u201cI can\u2019t choose\u2026\u201d
\n \u201cI can\u2019t\u2026\u201d<\/a><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Halfway through a twenty-minute conversation, I began to count the can\u2019t<\/em>s, no<\/em>s, and not<\/em>s. I hit twenty-nine. Twenty-nine dismally negative thoughts in ten minutes.<\/p>\n

This woman is a generous, kind, beautiful, and intelligent woman, but her habit of seeing the negative can be draining \u2013 on herself and everyone around her. Life is not going to be all peaches and cream, and there are going to be days when we aren\u2019t feeling very positive. We all have times when we need to vent, complain, be critical, and even whine. Do it, get it out of your system, and then move on. Don\u2019t let it become a habit. This type of habit can trap us, drowning our enthusiasm, sapping our energy, stealing our time, and isolating us from others.<\/p>\n

If this type of thinking is interfering with your life, now is a great time to start changing it. Getting started can be easy if you understand one basic rule of being human. That rule is: You will find what you are looking for. That\u2019s not something from an armchair psychologist or a trendy fortune cookie, it\u2019s a fact. As humans, we see a lot of stuff in a day, a week, a life \u2014 but we often only acknowledge those things that support what we already believed in the first place. Let me restate that:<\/p>\n

You will take to heart those things that support your beliefs and you will tend to overlook the things that do not.<\/em><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s say that you believe that no one likes you or wants to be around you. You call up a friend and ask her to meet you for lunch. You expect her to turn you down before you call. When you call she says she can\u2019t have lunch with you because her schedule is so busy.<\/p>\n

You were looking for proof that she didn\u2019t want to spend time with you, and you found it.<\/p>\n

However, if you believed that people like you and enjoy your company, you might have found proof of that in your friend\u2019s tone of voice when she sounded so miserable that she was going to miss lunch with you.<\/p>\n

It stands to reason that we should be careful of what we are looking for since we are almost guaranteed to find it. You might think you are looking for friends, but if you fear that you\u2019ll only make a fool of yourself, then you’re actually looking for proof that you are a fool. You might think you are looking for a job, but if deep inside you believe the search is hopeless then you are looking for all the ways in which it is hopeless. You might think you’re looking for romance, but if some part of you believes that you are unlovable, then guess what you’re going to find?<\/p>\n

If you find yourself steeped in negativity, it might be time to examine your beliefs. With a little effort, you can change the things you are looking for from negative to positive<\/a><\/strong> \u2013 and that could change your life.<\/p>\n

What’s ahead for your <\/em>life path?<\/strong> Try a psychic reading. Call 1.800.573.4830<\/span> or choose your psychic now. <\/a><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

It’s a truism that the mind only sees (and makes real) what it’s looking for. So if you constantly look for woe and sadness, that’s what you’ll get. Psychic Reed explains how you can change this by looking for happiness…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":6533,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[40],"tags":[7,1434,1756,485,7362,74],"cp_author":[18812],"class_list":["post-5867923","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-mind-body-spirit","tag-astrology","tag-horoscope","tag-perception","tag-positive-thinking","tag-spirituality-religion","tag-tarot","cp_author-psychic-reed-ext-5105"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\nHow to Find What You're Looking For | California Psychics<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"It's a truism that the mind only sees (and makes real) what it's looking for. So if you constantly look for woe and sadness, that's what you'll get. Psychic Reed explains how you can change this by looking for happiness...\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5867923\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"How to Find What You're Looking For | California Psychics\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"It's a truism that the mind only sees (and makes real) what it's looking for. So if you constantly look for woe and sadness, that's what you'll get. Psychic Reed explains how you can change this by looking for happiness...\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/usw2-www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/mind-body-spirit\/how-to-find-what-youre-looking-for.html\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"California Psychics\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2011-02-10T01:00:39+00:00\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"dmarantz\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"dmarantz\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"3 minutes\" \/>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"How to Find What You're Looking For | California Psychics","description":"It's a truism that the mind only sees (and makes real) what it's looking for. So if you constantly look for woe and sadness, that's what you'll get. Psychic Reed explains how you can change this by looking for happiness...","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5867923","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"How to Find What You're Looking For | California Psychics","og_description":"It's a truism that the mind only sees (and makes real) what it's looking for. So if you constantly look for woe and sadness, that's what you'll get. Psychic Reed explains how you can change this by looking for happiness...","og_url":"https:\/\/usw2-www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/mind-body-spirit\/how-to-find-what-youre-looking-for.html","og_site_name":"California Psychics","article_published_time":"2011-02-10T01:00:39+00:00","author":"dmarantz","twitter_misc":{"Written by":"dmarantz","Est. reading time":"3 minutes"},"schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/usw2-www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/mind-body-spirit\/how-to-find-what-youre-looking-for.html","url":"https:\/\/usw2-www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/mind-body-spirit\/how-to-find-what-youre-looking-for.html","name":"How to Find What You're Looking For | California Psychics","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/#website"},"datePublished":"2011-02-10T01:00:39+00:00","author":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/5c8bb38408feb57ed1a0f258f86a4787"},"description":"It's a truism that the mind only sees (and makes real) what it's looking for. So if you constantly look for woe and sadness, that's what you'll get. Psychic Reed explains how you can change this by looking for happiness...","breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/usw2-www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/mind-body-spirit\/how-to-find-what-youre-looking-for.html#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/usw2-www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/mind-body-spirit\/how-to-find-what-youre-looking-for.html"]}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/#website","url":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/","name":"California Psychics","description":"Psychic Readings | Live Phone Psychics","potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":{"@type":"PropertyValueSpecification","valueRequired":true,"valueName":"search_term_string"}}],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/5c8bb38408feb57ed1a0f258f86a4787","name":"dmarantz","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/761cfc95bae08994aabc5481dd6a5226bcb616a05f92b9b8f4b434ad88d2a4fe?s=96&d=mm&r=g","contentUrl":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/761cfc95bae08994aabc5481dd6a5226bcb616a05f92b9b8f4b434ad88d2a4fe?s=96&d=mm&r=g","caption":"dmarantz"},"url":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/author\/dmarantz"}]}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5867923","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/6533"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5867923"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5867923\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5868469,"href":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5867923\/revisions\/5868469"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5867923"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5867923"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5867923"},{"taxonomy":"cp_author","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/cp_author?post=5867923"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}